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The Porn Myth is a non-religious response to pro-pornography arguments. It draws from the experience of porn performers, recent research from neurology, sociology, and psychology to build a case for why pornography is destructive to individuals, relationships, and society. Matt Fradd provides insightful arguments, including the latest scientific research, on nearly every r The Porn Myth is a non-religious response to pro-pornography arguments. It draws from the experience of porn performers, recent research from neurology, sociology, and psychology to build a case for why pornography is destructive to individuals, relationships, and society. Matt Fradd provides insightful arguments, including the latest scientific research, on nearly every relevant subject imaginable, exposing the negative impact pornography has on our minds, our relationships, and our culture. This book addresses the neurological reasons porn is addictive, helps individuals learn how to be free of porn, and offers real help to parents and the spouses of porn users. Thanks to such new research on pornography's harmful effects on the brain, on relationships, and on society, there is today a wave of passionate individuals trying to change the cultural norm—inspiring others to pursue real love and avoid its hollow counterfeit. Today's younger generation wants a love that is untainted by warped perceptions of intimacy and by selfish desires. Millions are now recognizing pornography for what it is and rejecting its influence in their lives. This book is part of that movement. The Porn Myth will help readers to separate the myths from the reality about porn, and to reclaim real love in their lives. Matt Fradd masterfully articulates and dispels the falsehoods that have helped to spread porn addiction and sexual dysfunction, and he inspires us to take action against them.


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The Porn Myth is a non-religious response to pro-pornography arguments. It draws from the experience of porn performers, recent research from neurology, sociology, and psychology to build a case for why pornography is destructive to individuals, relationships, and society. Matt Fradd provides insightful arguments, including the latest scientific research, on nearly every r The Porn Myth is a non-religious response to pro-pornography arguments. It draws from the experience of porn performers, recent research from neurology, sociology, and psychology to build a case for why pornography is destructive to individuals, relationships, and society. Matt Fradd provides insightful arguments, including the latest scientific research, on nearly every relevant subject imaginable, exposing the negative impact pornography has on our minds, our relationships, and our culture. This book addresses the neurological reasons porn is addictive, helps individuals learn how to be free of porn, and offers real help to parents and the spouses of porn users. Thanks to such new research on pornography's harmful effects on the brain, on relationships, and on society, there is today a wave of passionate individuals trying to change the cultural norm—inspiring others to pursue real love and avoid its hollow counterfeit. Today's younger generation wants a love that is untainted by warped perceptions of intimacy and by selfish desires. Millions are now recognizing pornography for what it is and rejecting its influence in their lives. This book is part of that movement. The Porn Myth will help readers to separate the myths from the reality about porn, and to reclaim real love in their lives. Matt Fradd masterfully articulates and dispels the falsehoods that have helped to spread porn addiction and sexual dysfunction, and he inspires us to take action against them.

30 review for The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography

  1. 5 out of 5

    Amora

    While the author is indeed a committed Catholic, zero religious-driven arguments are presented in the book, making it readable for everyone. Pornography has played a huge role in increasing the acceptance of rape myths, destroying marriages, shrinking gray matter in the brain, increasing sexual deviancy, and taking away the innocence of adolescents. Unfortunately, many have decided to turn a blind eye to this and instead mock those who think we should do something about this epidemic. It’s worth While the author is indeed a committed Catholic, zero religious-driven arguments are presented in the book, making it readable for everyone. Pornography has played a huge role in increasing the acceptance of rape myths, destroying marriages, shrinking gray matter in the brain, increasing sexual deviancy, and taking away the innocence of adolescents. Unfortunately, many have decided to turn a blind eye to this and instead mock those who think we should do something about this epidemic. It’s worth adding that the purpose of this book is not to shame anyone but to educate. Plenty of resources are provided as to how to battle pornography addiction. The appendix at the end of the book was an excellent addition.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Steven Hunt

    Absolutely terrible book! I could barely finish this book. It took me weeks to get through it because I found it overly preachy and filled with biased premises. It concerns me that this book has such great reviews because this book is highly biased and doesn't present a complete picture of the "porn myth". I feel that I owe a comprehensive critique for those of you who have read it and seem to like it. Matt Fradd has done a great disservice in presenting his argument. His argument is premised on Absolutely terrible book! I could barely finish this book. It took me weeks to get through it because I found it overly preachy and filled with biased premises. It concerns me that this book has such great reviews because this book is highly biased and doesn't present a complete picture of the "porn myth". I feel that I owe a comprehensive critique for those of you who have read it and seem to like it. Matt Fradd has done a great disservice in presenting his argument. His argument is premised on the idea that porn is bad. Fair. I agree with this premise in general. However, he presents his argument in a one-sided, narrow, misogynistic, paternalistic and religious manner. The major flaws with this book are as follows: 1. Preachy: The book is highly preachy. Throughout the reading of the entire book, I felt like I was being lectured about being the scum of the universe. This book evoked similar feelings that I got when I read Valerie Solanas "Scum Manifesto". It was nauseating and overly condescending. If the author truly believes that any porn use is an addiction, he doesn't plead his case that he would be an ideal person to turn to, as he consistently preaches and condemns the use of porn. 2. Religious: Matt Fradd affirms at the outset that this book attempts to present a non-religious view of pornography albeit with a disclaimer of the fact he is a religiously motivated individual. He goes off on tangents feeling the need to justify his religious beliefs by saying "Just because my beliefs stem from religion, doesn't mean that they are weak arguments". I agree with this, but this goes without saying. The fact that he felt the need to dedicate a whole section of his books justifying his religious beliefs just gives me the impression that this author is unsure of himself and is insecure about his assertions. It was highly inappropriate and unnecessary. His arguments are also predicated on religious sentiments. He phrases his arguments that "Sex within monogamous, married relationships between a MAN AND A WOMAN is healthy" and "porn poses a danger to marriage". He ultimately ends up alienating those who either do not believe in the institution of marriage, those who have non-traditional relationships and those who are gay or lesbian. 3. Alientating: as with my previous points on the religion peace, it builds on my point of the alienating aspect of the book. If you are any of the following, this book is not for you: a) Female b) trans c) gay d) atheist e) A religion other than Christian d) In an open or non-monogmous relationship e) Enjoy sex in any other way other than missionary with a woman This sums up the views of Matt Fradd and how he has managed to alienate a huge portion of society that does not conform to his religious institution's view of a "healthy" relationship. 4. Over-stated research: So Matt does present some valid research articles. However, the majority of his argument is based on his personal opinions and critiques of the research, mixed with his personal ideologies and not the research itself. Matt draws HUGE assumptions based on research that has nothing to do with what he is saying. Any person with some basic training in statistics and research methods can see that his arguments are so flawed. To put it into perspective, Matt takes research that says "Porn can change a person's taste in sex" to mean that "Porn causes men to treat women like sex objects and trash and promotes misogynistic views of sex". That is not what the research is saying, Matt. It may be true, but that is not what the research is saying so you CANNOT say this conclusively. Which leads to another point in his over-statement of the research. He states a lot of his assumptions as conclusive FACTS, which any scholar or researcher knows is credibility suicide and highly inappropriate in any context. 5. Mysognistic & Paternalistic: Matt loves to take the view that women are the victims of porn, albeit he says some research shows that about 24 ish % of women watch porn as well. However, it is clear that his argument is addressed to men. Towards the end of his book, he goes off on another tangent, similar in irrelevancy to his tangent about his religion, on how men need to "Man up" and "Take responsibility for their porn" because he is "destroying his marriage with his wife". I felt physically sick reading this part of the book. He basically is saying that women are at the mercy of the man in the relationship and that "men" should basically know better than women. Highly mysoginistic, highly paternalistic and highly inappropriate. The book was supposed to be on what reserach says about Porn, not what Matt Fradd thinks about porn, parenting, religion and relationships. 6. Insufficient research: My area of research myself is in sex so I was already aware of some of the studies Matt Fradd was talking about. However, Matt has completely omitted plenty of other studies that I was shocked about! studies that both supported and did not support his premises. Whether they support your premises or not, you should always include them in your data to be transparent to the consumers. But what was really obvious from this was that Matt was simply selecting research that fit his personal ideologies. He completely omitted the existing research on how men as well are exploited in pornography. Specifically, heterosexual men who are exploited to do homosexual porn for money, men who have suffered trauma and psychiatric harm as a result of participating in porn and the various other research that shows that not only women but MEN TOO can be exploited in porn. Matt also completely ignored the fact that porn is more than simply heterosexual sex. You have homosexual porn, you have bisexual porn, incest porn, bestiality, tons of other types of porn in which there is research on but he completely ignored it. Why? Because it seems to me he is more concerned about his Christian, religious, heterosexual brethren and could care less about the "outsiders" of society who are equally being harmed by this issue. 7. Unfocused: I have mentioned this in a couple of my other points, but Matt tries to accomplish a ton in about 6 hours of reading. He attempts to: a) Tell you how porn is bad for "HETEROSEXUALLY MARRIED COUPLES ONLY" b) Help you recognize you have a problem c) Help you to overcome the problem and gives you advise on how to approach it in your life d) Preach to you about how you should be parenting your children e) Preach to you about how his religious views are valid whether you believe it or not. This book could be listed as a self-help book, as well as a parenting book as well as a psychology book as well as a sociology book. With the amount of stuff being preached by Matt, you would think this guy has PhDs in 50 different subjects. He can barely stay focused on one topic. The book seems to even follow his thought process directly, he goes from talking about why porn is bad, to his religion, to why porn is bad again, to talk about parenting, back to why porn is bad, then to how to help yourself and then back to why porn is terrible for women. It is just all over the place! Conclusion To conclude, this book is terrible. I usually appreciate books like this at the very list for their ability to link you to insightful research studies. However, this book fails even at that as Matt has omitted many pertinent and useful studies in drawing conclusions. Also, the research findings are overshadowed by his gross assumptions and assertions that are not based on any research and are basically overstated value statements. I would not recommend this book to anyone. It was very difficult to read and I feel there are better options out there. Disclaimer: Seeing that Matt felt the need to disclose his own personal ideologies, I feel the need to disclose mine. My personal views are a conservative libertarian. Libertarian only in the fact that my life work revolves around sex research. My background is in mental health (specifically those with compulsive sexual behaviors in which I did a Masters) and recently have started a Juris Doctorate degree in Law.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Philip Tadros

    Highly recommended. Author Matt Fradd succeeds at the goal he sets out to accomplish: make a non-religious argument that porn is bad. To some that may like a no-brainer, but it's not. There are many cultural myths about sex and porn, and a glimpse at this book's table of contents illustrates that. Even to a convinced reader, exploring the social and cultural myths about porn in light of recent social and scientific research, has only increased my hatred for it. Some might say the arguments the a Highly recommended. Author Matt Fradd succeeds at the goal he sets out to accomplish: make a non-religious argument that porn is bad. To some that may like a no-brainer, but it's not. There are many cultural myths about sex and porn, and a glimpse at this book's table of contents illustrates that. Even to a convinced reader, exploring the social and cultural myths about porn in light of recent social and scientific research, has only increased my hatred for it. Some might say the arguments the author makes are familiar. This is true. Even so, it is an excellent resource, because it provides ample reference on, say porn and the brain, emotional health, sexual violence, effect on marriage, parenting, and relationships. (I couldn't find any books out there making this argument based on recent research). Please read this book, and recommend it to someone you know.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Bilal Hikari

    It is an interesting book, a good start for those who claim that porn has no effect on our life (Brain, relationships, children, couple etc.) full of resources and well documented, the author puts a lot of effort and research in this book and it shows on every page. Some of my favorite quotes: "Lewis offered some insights about masturbation. He said that a man’s sexual appetite is meant to lead him out of himself, to lead him into being a self-gift that both completes and corrects his personality— It is an interesting book, a good start for those who claim that porn has no effect on our life (Brain, relationships, children, couple etc.) full of resources and well documented, the author puts a lot of effort and research in this book and it shows on every page. Some of my favorite quotes: "Lewis offered some insights about masturbation. He said that a man’s sexual appetite is meant to lead him out of himself, to lead him into being a self-gift that both completes and corrects his personality—first by sharing whole-life oneness with a lover and second by procreating children. With masturbation, however, the appetite is turned in on itself and “sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides”. What is the harm in this? Lewis says that the problem with masturbation is that a man comes to prefer his fantasy world to reality" "Whatever we might say about the exact relationship of porn to sexual violence, it should be clear that in order for men to violate a woman’s body, some part of them must first believe she is an object to be used rather than a person to be respected—and porn is quite possibly the most powerful means of delivering that belief." “Boys’ brains are being digitally rewired in a totally new way, for change, novelty, excitement.” "It's important to note that just because something is better than something else in one respect, that does not mean it is therefore good. Smoking one carton of cigarettes a day might be better than smoking ten, but smoking one carton should not be labeled “healthy”." "One of my favorite philosophers is the seventeenth-century French polymath Blaise Pascal. Pascal spoke of the pathology of the compulsive gambler. Is it merely the money he desires? No, because if you simply gave the compulsive gambler what he might win—on the condition that he couldn’t gamble anymore—he wouldn’t take it (or else would lie and use it to gamble anyway). Nor is the compulsive gambler merely addicted to playing the game. Without the prospect of the winnings, the game would cease to be amusing. Rather, what captivates the gambler is the fantasy that winning will make him happy. It is not the big win but the hope for the big win that the gambler craves. But when he wins, his contentment does not last, and he moves on to the next diversion. Married life no more cures a porn addiction than winning the lottery cures a gambling addiction. A person so trained on the pornographic experience isn’t merely after a good orgasm. He is hooked on the anticipation of what comes next, the rush of moving from one object of desire to the next, one body to the next, always looking to trade the one in front of his eyes for what he hopes will be the ultimate sexual experience." "There have been several studies on the effects of porn on the human perception of sex. One important effect is how extramarital sex is viewed. Pornography displays extramarital sex as exciting, and that display can lead the viewer to accept extramarital sex as normal. That poses a problem for those in committed relationships, especially since adultery is cited as one of the leading causes for divorce in America." "Marriage will not fix a pornography habit, but a pornography habit will likely destroy a marriage." "To help our children to grow up in a pornified world, we must take the double-pronged strategy of both protecting their minds and preparing their character...This is why, as parents, we need to do everything in our power to make sure that our homes are not places our kids seek refuge from. If anything, our homes should be places of refuge, but this cannot happen if our kids are growing up in an environment of constant criticism, impatience, self-centeredness, and frustration." "It has been said—and I agree—that the real problem with pornography isn’t that it shows too much but that it shows too little. Too little of what? Too little of the human person. Porn treats sex one-dimensionally, by reducing people to their sexual organs, and then uses them as a mere means to an end. As a result, it cannot offer the experience of real intimacy that we long for." "It is my contention that what sets human beings apart from animals is that, while we have survival instincts, we can choose how we behave because of our supremely unique brains and bodies...We stand against pornography in order to stand for the honor of the human person." "North American women live in psychologically split times. On one hand, they have dared to believe the modern rhetoric that relationships should be founded on mutual respect, honesty, shared power, and romantic love. On the other hand, pornography involves the exact opposite: disrespect, dissimulation, power imbalances, and detachment." “It’s important to remember this business is built on sex and money, not trust.” "In the end, we are responsible for the businesses we choose to endorse with our money and our mouse clicks. Choosing to avoid child porn and to watch only “adult” pornography may sound noble to some, but in the end, it only supports an industry that tries with all its might to sexualize youth." "But let’s be realistic. Information is only the first step in changing a cultural norm: there is also a lot of work to do. But that’s okay. We can do it." Thank you Matt Fradd!

  5. 5 out of 5

    Alvaro Sánchez

    A little bit repetitive but I'm think is a very good book. The author, who is catholic, try to criticize the porn from a non-religious perspective and I think it did fairly well (unlike other ocassions when religious author try to criticize something, but his conservativism flourish). I'm not very religious, I'm not conservative, and I can say this book has some uncomfortable truths about porn. A little bit repetitive but I'm think is a very good book. The author, who is catholic, try to criticize the porn from a non-religious perspective and I think it did fairly well (unlike other ocassions when religious author try to criticize something, but his conservativism flourish). I'm not very religious, I'm not conservative, and I can say this book has some uncomfortable truths about porn.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Imran Pasha

    Ohh okay lets start a review.. porn is bad end of story.. ahh arrya aise kaise bad hain.. let's jump into basic biology, any artificial stimulation which disturbs your homeostasis state of your mind is a bad deal and Porn is one of them.. there are other stuffs which alter your baseline of your harmonal levels like drugs, sex (if done excessively, you can watch "shame movie" to get the depth of sex addiction.. I know most of the people don't believe it exists but it does ) Excessive use of intern Ohh okay lets start a review.. porn is bad end of story.. ahh arrya aise kaise bad hain.. let's jump into basic biology, any artificial stimulation which disturbs your homeostasis state of your mind is a bad deal and Porn is one of them.. there are other stuffs which alter your baseline of your harmonal levels like drugs, sex (if done excessively, you can watch "shame movie" to get the depth of sex addiction.. I know most of the people don't believe it exists but it does ) Excessive use of internet for junk information etc and overwhelming yourself with stuffs which you don't really need!! Let's talk about the industry.. every industry is good for some section of people and bad for some.. talking about porn industry the people who are getting benifitted in long term are the investors.. those multi dollar MEN.. Talking about performers they too get exploited by this industry they either got blackmailed to get into this industry or they had serious emotional baggages with them.. there are tons of videos on youtube about ex performers' confessions on the industry why did they quit!! and their experience in industry!! Is it bad or good? you need to decide it after watching those!! ( Mia Didi's exclusive interview on youtube, you can watch it) Coming to the fantasy of porn that caters million men and women around the globe.. Men get addicted more to porn and there are the tons reason for that, first men are sensitive to visual stimulation , porn presents hyped version of physical appearances of opposite sex.. which literally exploits men's evolutionary preference and sets "unrealistic expectations" for men towards opposite sex.. objectify them.. ( Not everyone is Kim, be reasonable). Apart from that most unethical stuffs gets uploaded every min which are kinda disgusting to even speak!! I know there are tons of arguments regarding Porn is neutral it depends how you use it.. like water if you drink with reasonable proportion it is good.. if you drink too much you die( sinking in the salty ocean ) it actually helps people who are in old relationship to spice up things.. yea it is good but do we have free will ? Robert Sapolsky doesn't think so..( if you want to dive deep into free will stuff you can check out his Stanford lectures on the same on youtube..) I know most you guys will be like this is just moral bitching of porn.. like yeah but put aside moral and religious jargon.. think about pure biology, physiological perspective spectrum.. if you want to know know biological bitching of porn you can read "You brain on Porn" or you can watch youtube animated series with the same name!! either one is good..

  7. 5 out of 5

    Garret Shields

    4.5/5 - This BOOK is NOT for EVERYONE... BUT the PRINCIPLES in it ARE IMPORTANT for EVERYONE to understand!! This powerful book clearly and succinctly puts forth the non-religious arguments against pornography. It does so using scientific studies, personal anecdotes, and overwhelming statistics. Matt Fradd, the author, structured this book so that he debunks various “myths” about porn, such as: “Porn is just “adult” entertainment,” “Only religious people oppose porn,” and “I will always be addic 4.5/5 - This BOOK is NOT for EVERYONE... BUT the PRINCIPLES in it ARE IMPORTANT for EVERYONE to understand!! This powerful book clearly and succinctly puts forth the non-religious arguments against pornography. It does so using scientific studies, personal anecdotes, and overwhelming statistics. Matt Fradd, the author, structured this book so that he debunks various “myths” about porn, such as: “Porn is just “adult” entertainment,” “Only religious people oppose porn,” and “I will always be addicted to porn.” It is an insightful and helpful book that helps us know some of the best ways to talk about and confront this issue that some have called the “plague” of our time. The section on “The Porn Industry” was a little too hard for me to handle as it described the brutal treatment some of the actors and actresses in adult videos must endure. I skipped parts. The rest, though, was incredibly helpful and uplifting. To anyone who is interested in this topic and wants to be better educated about it, I highly recommend this book (with the caution that parts can be pretty intense).

  8. 4 out of 5

    James Mourgos

    Quite an important work considering the science behind Porn addiction. Too many men and women get involved in this. Why is it harmful? What happens to the brain when a man is "turned on" to the pornography on his phone or desktop? Not only is science against porn, but the actresses in these porn dramas are ruthlessly treated and some have gone to the hospital after going through this ordeal, desperate for money and then sorry they did it. Male porn stars ravaged by STDs and women damaged for lif Quite an important work considering the science behind Porn addiction. Too many men and women get involved in this. Why is it harmful? What happens to the brain when a man is "turned on" to the pornography on his phone or desktop? Not only is science against porn, but the actresses in these porn dramas are ruthlessly treated and some have gone to the hospital after going through this ordeal, desperate for money and then sorry they did it. Male porn stars ravaged by STDs and women damaged for life. Sounds attractive, no? NO! Read this boys and buy Net Nanny!

  9. 4 out of 5

    Alyssa

    Nope. Cannot finish this.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Sandis

    Matt Fradd really exposed the reality behind pornography. It is a great book for anyone who struggles with porn addiction or wants to get educated about it to help someone struggling with it. Highly recommend.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Kshitij Chaurel

    Waste of time.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Neil

    I do not think this qualifies as a non-religious book although it presents itself as such. There’s a lot of information here, much of it decent, but it also felt that opposing scientific views were not well-represented, which is fine - I understand the position he is coming from. But it is not a scientific book, it’s a religious book that cites scientific studies to justify a particular religious viewpoint. I don’t disagree with him - I myself am Catholic and bought it at a Catholic bookstore - I do not think this qualifies as a non-religious book although it presents itself as such. There’s a lot of information here, much of it decent, but it also felt that opposing scientific views were not well-represented, which is fine - I understand the position he is coming from. But it is not a scientific book, it’s a religious book that cites scientific studies to justify a particular religious viewpoint. I don’t disagree with him - I myself am Catholic and bought it at a Catholic bookstore - but I don’t think it should be presented as non-religious. The author gets points for brevity, however.

  13. 5 out of 5

    Sister Ignatia

    Matt Fradd tells you everything that the culture is not telling you about porn and the porn industry. It is a difficult read, but a clear and insightful look into the most pressing problem facing young people today.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Nikki

    Excellent book. I recommend all should read this.

  15. 4 out of 5

    James Catingub

    An alarming look into the reality of pornography that is sobering. A must read that demystifies the “allure” of pornography and is rich with academic citation.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Katalina Amaya

    Couldn’t finish the book.. it started quite interesting with all the information and explanations about why porn can be an addiction until it turned into a self help book on how to not watch porn and how horrible is to do so. Wouldn’t recommend it

  17. 4 out of 5

    Nora

    I enjoyed reading this book as a means to understand the anti-porn argument more thoroughly. The author, Matt Fradd, discloses his personal bias in the matter as a devout Catholic man but does not attempt to make a religious argument against pornography. Some of the primary points he used to argue against porn were that it normalizes sexual aggression and violence, is produced by an industry that is demeaning or harmful to women, perpetuates unrealistic standards of sexual behaviors and relation I enjoyed reading this book as a means to understand the anti-porn argument more thoroughly. The author, Matt Fradd, discloses his personal bias in the matter as a devout Catholic man but does not attempt to make a religious argument against pornography. Some of the primary points he used to argue against porn were that it normalizes sexual aggression and violence, is produced by an industry that is demeaning or harmful to women, perpetuates unrealistic standards of sexual behaviors and relationships, and has negative neurologic implications reminiscent of substance use addictions. I liked that Fradd chose to develop his argument with non-religious points rather than use tenets of Catholicism. Overall, I think he makes a good argument that porn can be addictive and negative in many instances. He cites some studies throughout to bolster his stance. Instinctively, I would agree with his points that many people watch porn, many people learn from the porn they watch, and the extreme sexual visualizations and narratives that porn provides can result in sexual desensitization or less fulfillment of sexual relationships in real life. However, I would disagree in that I do not think porn is negative in ALL circumstances. Rather, I think porn (defined by consenting adults having sex watched by other consenting adults) could be acceptable if used responsibly. My reason for saying this goes back to the book "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel. She did not take an "anti-porn" stance but rather was more interested in what one attains from porn use, their reasons for enjoying it, and what that means about them. These answers are not negative or positive by themselves but help people understand why they watch porn in the first place. Equipped with this knowledge, they can make more informed decisions to determine if recreational porn use should have a place in their lives or not. Porn does not have to be an inherently negative thing, but it can be used responsibly in a recreational capacity when the individual is able to recognize the appropriate context and introspective enough to understand its effects. Esther Perel encourages erotic exploration and understanding of where fantasies and desire come from. Porn could be a platform to explore one's erotic identity and indulge underlying desires. I recognize, this gets a bit idealistic because that would basically be implying that all users of porn would have to be quite introspective and ultra-aware beings. Esther Perel urges in her book that individuals should rekindle their erotic nature and this may rejuvenate their dull relationships to keep both partners satisfied. For some, porn may be harmful in the relationship while for others, it is a source of increased sexual engagement and fulfillment. For this reason, I cannot agree that porn is all bad. Even more specifically, I cannot agree with Fradd that even the more kinky storylines and behaviors portrayed in porn are bad in all circumstances either. "Don't yuck another person's yum" ( to quote Emily Nagasaki in "Come as you are"). The obvious caveat to this would be a porn addiction when use is defined by destructive and detrimental consequences which may be harmful. In such a case, and certainly, I can think of others, porn would not be appropriate. But for people who use it appropriately and have enough foresight to understand the bigger picture behind their porn use, I say have at it. I still look forward to evolving my opinion on this highly controversial subject. This book offered a great platform to get started.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Darryl Sloan

    This could have been a great book, if the author had concentrated on the most important drawbacks of Internet porn consumption: desensitisation leading to seeking out "edgier" material; erectile dysfunction stemming from desensitisation; the risk of addiction, particularly in juveniles, as well as the development of unhealthy views of what constitutes normal sexual behaviour. Instead of unpacking these themes thoroughly, Fradd instead chooses to bombard the reader with a plethora of different arg This could have been a great book, if the author had concentrated on the most important drawbacks of Internet porn consumption: desensitisation leading to seeking out "edgier" material; erectile dysfunction stemming from desensitisation; the risk of addiction, particularly in juveniles, as well as the development of unhealthy views of what constitutes normal sexual behaviour. Instead of unpacking these themes thoroughly, Fradd instead chooses to bombard the reader with a plethora of different arguments against against porn use, many of which are short and lacking in substance. Space is wasted on peripheral issues like a discussion of how your porn habit can hurt your partner's feelings. The aim seems to be quantity over quality, with many of the arguments failing to sufficiently prove causation over correlation, in the matter of harmful effects. Bombarding the reader with thirty weak arguments is no substitute for a single, carefully articulated, airtight argument. It's unfortunate that the author is a practising Catholic. He promises to keep religious argumentation out of the book, but his Catholic morals are integral to his character, which unavoidably colours his arguments. It's an all-or-nothing approach to porn, where there is no consideration given to the view that porn exists simply because unfulfilled sexual desire exists, and the best way to deal with it might be to learn the difference between indulgence and compulsion. Fradd's ideal (unsurprisingly) is to be the kind of man who won't allow himself to gaze upon an attractive woman in real life. Speaking as an ex-Christian, I learned the hard way that suppression fuels obsession. The all-or-nothing strategy that the author advocates only makes things worse.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Mike Page

    This is an excellent book. The author is self-admittedly Catholic, but the angle to the myths he is exposing are basically secular. The value on "the honor of the human person" and the "fundamental presupposition: if you want something to flourish, you need to use it in accordance with its nature" really elevate the content. He clearly has a high value to the soul and sex, and it comes through in his arguments. Some of the arguments are a tad weak, or he fails to reinforce his point. I don't disa This is an excellent book. The author is self-admittedly Catholic, but the angle to the myths he is exposing are basically secular. The value on "the honor of the human person" and the "fundamental presupposition: if you want something to flourish, you need to use it in accordance with its nature" really elevate the content. He clearly has a high value to the soul and sex, and it comes through in his arguments. Some of the arguments are a tad weak, or he fails to reinforce his point. I don't disagree with the conclusions, I just found two to three of them lacking the proper reinforcement, hence the lack of a 5th star. His final subheading, The Struggle With Porn, is such a great way to finish out the book. How to protect kids, help for a hurting spouse, and then practical steps for overcoming porn and addiction is invaluable and having been in recovery for some time, he's really had great material in these chapters. The appendixes are fantastic and a great resource of research he's compiled and as good as the book itself.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Daniel Millard

    After following Matt Fradd for a couple of years, supporting him on Patreon, and backing his new book on Kickstarter, I finally read this, the book that seemed to break him into public consciousness. The Porn Myth is deliberately not religious (Matt Fradd is, like myself, a fairly traditional Catholic), but rather a collection of common misperceptions about pornography, dispelled quite thoroughly and through heavy citing of studies, experts, and surveys. For a book of its length, the appendices t After following Matt Fradd for a couple of years, supporting him on Patreon, and backing his new book on Kickstarter, I finally read this, the book that seemed to break him into public consciousness. The Porn Myth is deliberately not religious (Matt Fradd is, like myself, a fairly traditional Catholic), but rather a collection of common misperceptions about pornography, dispelled quite thoroughly and through heavy citing of studies, experts, and surveys. For a book of its length, the appendices this contains are pretty exhaustive. For anyone struggling with pornography, anyone who isn't sure where they stand as it impacts public health, or even the few who are generally uninformed about the threat that the phenomenon causes, this is a quick, intelligent, charitable, and yet firm, unyielding read.

  21. 4 out of 5

    Sam Eccleston

    This is less of a coherent and detailed explanation of the empirical evidence that porn is bad for human beings and more a loose collection of moral essays on the subject of porn, all of which rely on essentially the same empirical evidence. This isn't in itself a bad thing, it just doesn't match with the way the book is marketed. Nevertheless, the arguments are actually fairly convincing and straightforward. This in itself shows how confused our typical thinking in this subject has become. This is less of a coherent and detailed explanation of the empirical evidence that porn is bad for human beings and more a loose collection of moral essays on the subject of porn, all of which rely on essentially the same empirical evidence. This isn't in itself a bad thing, it just doesn't match with the way the book is marketed. Nevertheless, the arguments are actually fairly convincing and straightforward. This in itself shows how confused our typical thinking in this subject has become.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Toofan

    A total waste of time and money. Not knowing the author, I was looking forward to a well researched and scientific work. Unfortunately this book is any thing but scientific and to make matters worse it is highly biased and reeks of religion.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Jessy Jones

    Some interesting information, but mostly colored by a narrow, and clearly religious viewpoint. As someone mostly anti-porn, and mostly pro-erotica, I found the book’s foundation was built on shame, and flawed reasoning. I wouldn’t recommend it.

  24. 5 out of 5

    Niels Philbert

    I should have been wary, when a book needs to promote, that it's "a non-religious account". I couldn't finish the book. It is just too one-sided, too dogmatic and definitely biased in part of the authors' religious world view. Try Gary Wilsons work instead. I should have been wary, when a book needs to promote, that it's "a non-religious account". I couldn't finish the book. It is just too one-sided, too dogmatic and definitely biased in part of the authors' religious world view. Try Gary Wilsons work instead.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Daniel Winter

    Though the author has consolidated extensive research from a number of psychologists, neurologists, doctors and sexual health clinicians have to make some convincing points about the harmful effects of pornography use he combines this data in a narrowly scoped way from a Christian perspective. I have no doubt about many of his assertions on how porn disrupts normal brain and sexual function but he portrays man from an overtly Christian agenda when at the beginning of the book he said he was not Though the author has consolidated extensive research from a number of psychologists, neurologists, doctors and sexual health clinicians have to make some convincing points about the harmful effects of pornography use he combines this data in a narrowly scoped way from a Christian perspective. I have no doubt about many of his assertions on how porn disrupts normal brain and sexual function but he portrays man from an overtly Christian agenda when at the beginning of the book he said he was not going to speak from this standpoint. He describes sex as an act of love in marriage where oxytocin is slowly released and the two are bonded through time. He does not take into consideration that humans can without porn abuse be polygamous animals and he argues that our prefrontal cortex is structured for emotional decisional making which is why monogamy is specific to humans. Yes it is but do not narrow things down to marital monogamy. Overall it was insightful to discover how corrupt the porn industry is and the greedy capitalists who benefit through the selling of the human body as a commodity and how the brain is on porn.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Vamsi

    Porn promises freedom, but it enslaves us. It promises excitement, but it ends up boring us. It promises us 'Adult' entertainment yet it makes us increasingly juvenile. It promises intimacy, but leads to isolation' Porn, the super-stimuli drug of new millennia is no less than a epidemic that plagues humanity in its own way. In building a case against it, in this book, author argues 24 common myths on Porn which is making it mainstream friendly and acceptable. Myths such as Porn is just 'Adult Porn promises freedom, but it enslaves us. It promises excitement, but it ends up boring us. It promises us 'Adult' entertainment yet it makes us increasingly juvenile. It promises intimacy, but leads to isolation' Porn, the super-stimuli drug of new millennia is no less than a epidemic that plagues humanity in its own way. In building a case against it, in this book, author argues 24 common myths on Porn which is making it mainstream friendly and acceptable. Myths such as Porn is just 'Adult' entertainment To be 'Anti-Porn' is to be 'Anti-Sex' Porn isn't addictive Porn is just fantasy, it can never effect real lives. Porn empowers women Erotica is an healthy alternative Porn industry safe for performers Porn and naked art are same These and several others myths that were declassified with strategic analysis, research and reasoning. A case on how deviant the industry exploits the vulnerable and how subtly it desensitizes simple pleasures, dissociating self from relations from life eventually descending the addict to detritus. A book that is a must for everyone ,especially who think porn is normal.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Viktor Nilsson

    I first got interested in learning the harm of porn use by watching a TED talk by Gary Wilson, which led me to read his book, Your Brain On Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction. To me that book remains the superb source on these matters, very factual and objective while still an easy read. This book, in contrast, has more personal conclusions from the author. While I do agree with most of them, I think a critical reader might not get convinced. Most of what is said is I first got interested in learning the harm of porn use by watching a TED talk by Gary Wilson, which led me to read his book, Your Brain On Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction. To me that book remains the superb source on these matters, very factual and objective while still an easy read. This book, in contrast, has more personal conclusions from the author. While I do agree with most of them, I think a critical reader might not get convinced. Most of what is said is based on research, something you will recognize if you have read Wilson. I would have preferred more references to studies in the main text however, rather than having it in the appendix. If you have read Wilson and want to know more, or prefer a more casual way of discussing this topic, then this is a good read.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Terese

    Very interesting book, I liked the part about the industry the most (though some parts kind of made me dry-heave because of, ehm, prolapse type situations, ugh….) and it did give you food for thought and things to discuss. I liked the parts with studies covering cyber sex addiction etc, because the studies were interesting. He lost me a little around the marriage discussions, not that it can’t be incredibly hurtful for a wife to find that her husband is watching porn, but the description of it be Very interesting book, I liked the part about the industry the most (though some parts kind of made me dry-heave because of, ehm, prolapse type situations, ugh….) and it did give you food for thought and things to discuss. I liked the parts with studies covering cyber sex addiction etc, because the studies were interesting. He lost me a little around the marriage discussions, not that it can’t be incredibly hurtful for a wife to find that her husband is watching porn, but the description of it being a major rupture in their lives and a hindrance to intimacy well… it felt like a type of couple, but not necessarily a majority (which may be sad, from the perspective that porn use is so ubiquitous now that most people would not be surprised or hurt to find their partner using it) That said, as mentioned, I really enjoyed the discussions of the industry, our view of sex, and how early kids are being introduced to adult material (with adult also being a fictional line of maturity). I think there needs to be more discussion of porn, without being accused of being puritanical, and what it says about our society and how it effects us individually and relationally.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Matthew Borton

    Solid presentation of data and the overwhelming research that points to addiction behaviors resulting from porn use and the impact on sexuality and well being including the neurological impact making porn use similar to drug use. Also the greater discussion on porn and society and the effect on women and those in the industry was very good. The differentiation of the grey area between porn and art is also very helpful. One major point of the book is that porn ruins good sex. There is not much di Solid presentation of data and the overwhelming research that points to addiction behaviors resulting from porn use and the impact on sexuality and well being including the neurological impact making porn use similar to drug use. Also the greater discussion on porn and society and the effect on women and those in the industry was very good. The differentiation of the grey area between porn and art is also very helpful. One major point of the book is that porn ruins good sex. There is not much discussion of the factors that lead to good intimacy but this is not the scope of the book. A couple chapters seemed to lack the research and suffered from correlation vs causation and perhaps his own religious bias specifically chapters 13 and 16 (“not mastur...” and “erotica”). Is there a place for a modified form of these things for improving marital intimacy? What approach is recommended in sex therapy? I would hope there would be a follow up book on developing good marital intimacy equally based on data and research. For now this is a good start on what not to do.

  30. 5 out of 5

    Deyth Banger

    "May 2, 2018 – 100.0% "This book is going to change your mindset. it's going to re-program!" October 14, 2017 – page 18 6.43% "Sex isn't violence... when you start watching pornography you start searching more and more extreme... Ted Bundy started the killing spree mainly because of pornography. He just went into another level very very far from where he started." October 14, 2017 – page 18 6.43% "Pornography is an addiction people should find a way to stop it... one way or another this should b "May 2, 2018 – 100.0% "This book is going to change your mindset. it's going to re-program!" October 14, 2017 – page 18 6.43% "Sex isn't violence... when you start watching pornography you start searching more and more extreme... Ted Bundy started the killing spree mainly because of pornography. He just went into another level very very far from where he started." October 14, 2017 – page 18 6.43% "Pornography is an addiction people should find a way to stop it... one way or another this should be stopped. Or Else it's going to fucked up all humans in the world which have ever lived." September 20, 2017 – page 18 6.43% September 20, 2017 – Shelved September 20, 2017 – Started Reading" - To get out of this zone, you need to understand how deep you are in this shit.

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