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Man up and discover the practical and inspirational information all men should know! While it’s definitely more than just monster trucks, grilling, and six-pack abs, true manliness is hard to define. The words macho and manly are not synonymous. Taking lessons from classic gentlemen such as Benjamin Franklin and Theodore Roosevelt, authors Brett and Kate McKay have created Man up and discover the practical and inspirational information all men should know! While it’s definitely more than just monster trucks, grilling, and six-pack abs, true manliness is hard to define. The words macho and manly are not synonymous. Taking lessons from classic gentlemen such as Benjamin Franklin and Theodore Roosevelt, authors Brett and Kate McKay have created a collection of the most useful advice every man needs to know to live life to its full potential. This book contains a wealth of information that ranges from survival skills to social skills to advice on how to improve your character. Whether you are braving the wilds with your friends, courting your girlfriend, or raising a family, inside you’ll find practical information and inspiration for every area of life. You’ll learn the basics all modern men should know, including how to: -Shave like your grandpa -Be a perfect houseguest -Fight like a gentleman using the art of bartitsu -Help a friend with a problem -Give a man hug -Perform a fireman’s carry -Ask for a woman’s hand in marriage -Raise resilient kids -Predict the weather like a frontiersman -Start a fire without matches -Give a dynamic speech -Live a well-balanced life So jump in today and gain the skills and knowledge you need to be a real man in the 21st century.


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Man up and discover the practical and inspirational information all men should know! While it’s definitely more than just monster trucks, grilling, and six-pack abs, true manliness is hard to define. The words macho and manly are not synonymous. Taking lessons from classic gentlemen such as Benjamin Franklin and Theodore Roosevelt, authors Brett and Kate McKay have created Man up and discover the practical and inspirational information all men should know! While it’s definitely more than just monster trucks, grilling, and six-pack abs, true manliness is hard to define. The words macho and manly are not synonymous. Taking lessons from classic gentlemen such as Benjamin Franklin and Theodore Roosevelt, authors Brett and Kate McKay have created a collection of the most useful advice every man needs to know to live life to its full potential. This book contains a wealth of information that ranges from survival skills to social skills to advice on how to improve your character. Whether you are braving the wilds with your friends, courting your girlfriend, or raising a family, inside you’ll find practical information and inspiration for every area of life. You’ll learn the basics all modern men should know, including how to: -Shave like your grandpa -Be a perfect houseguest -Fight like a gentleman using the art of bartitsu -Help a friend with a problem -Give a man hug -Perform a fireman’s carry -Ask for a woman’s hand in marriage -Raise resilient kids -Predict the weather like a frontiersman -Start a fire without matches -Give a dynamic speech -Live a well-balanced life So jump in today and gain the skills and knowledge you need to be a real man in the 21st century.

30 review for The Art of Manliness: Classic Skills and Manners for the Modern Man

  1. 4 out of 5

    Seamus

    This review is a supplement to the excellent review which V_Shaft has posted. This book, like Brett and Kate McKay's blog, is useful for what you choose to take from it. No, this book will not magically transform you into manly man or a Victorian gentleman or whatever kind of man you aspire to be. The title of the book is The Art of Manliness, not The Philosophy of Manliness. The subtitle is Classic Skills and Manners for the Modern Man. But for the guy who wants to learns some classical skills o This review is a supplement to the excellent review which V_Shaft has posted. This book, like Brett and Kate McKay's blog, is useful for what you choose to take from it. No, this book will not magically transform you into manly man or a Victorian gentleman or whatever kind of man you aspire to be. The title of the book is The Art of Manliness, not The Philosophy of Manliness. The subtitle is Classic Skills and Manners for the Modern Man. But for the guy who wants to learns some classical skills of male etiquette, this book is very useful. In the section Dress Like A Gentleman, the McKays skip casual wear. Most men today know how to do casual. Instead, they focus on how to look sharp when the occasion calls for it. BTW, a pocket square doesn't look old-fashioned; it makes a guy look well-dressed and wealthy---and this book can tell you how to fold one, three different ways. In the section Fight Like A Gentleman, instruction is given for the most basic moves in Bartitsu, one of the precursors to modern mixed martial arts. It is still taught in martial arts schools today. While the chances of being attacked carrying a cloak and cane are exceedingly slim, the odds of being attacked when a sturdy stick (a tree limb, a tire iron, a baseball bat) and a large piece of fabric (a jacket, a blanket) are involved are pretty good. Among the many sections of the book are sections giving tips on how to woo and marry a woman. Contrary to much feminist advice today, many women still enjoy being courted by strong, decisive, and romantic alpha men. Thirty years after women's lib, romance novels still sell like like your Grandma's hot-cakes. This book gives you the know-how. If you like romance, don't act like a jerk because you think it attracts women---you'll end up driving off the women you really want. On the other hand, if you really are a jerk, by all means, act like it. You will likely get a woman who is a b*tch herself. To sum up, this book won't give you the theory, but it will give you the practicum if you feel like some of the refined skills of adulthood are alluding you.

  2. 5 out of 5

    Teo

    From the founders of the popular website of the same name, comes a book about the (lost) art of manliness. I was a casual reader of the said site, and I found some of the advices there useful, but to say it'll really bring you from a wuss to a manly man would be an overstatement. And, just like the site, this book is a mixed bag. First of all, I thought it would focus on the notion, or ideal of manliness. As it turns out, it's more of a how-to guide for doing things the authors deems as manly. Th From the founders of the popular website of the same name, comes a book about the (lost) art of manliness. I was a casual reader of the said site, and I found some of the advices there useful, but to say it'll really bring you from a wuss to a manly man would be an overstatement. And, just like the site, this book is a mixed bag. First of all, I thought it would focus on the notion, or ideal of manliness. As it turns out, it's more of a how-to guide for doing things the authors deems as manly. That alone lowers the worth of this work - because it won't change your mind framework and your way of thinking, just give you a few tips n' tricks without really telling you what a man should be. In other words, it's superficial, and does not change a man from within. And also, the authors' vision of what is manly is, to say the least, debatable. The book is divided in 8 chapters focusing on different aspects of manliness: 1. The Gentleman 2. The Friend 3. The Hero 4. The Lover 5. The Father 6. The Outdoorsman 7. The Leader 8. The Virtuous Man In these chapters, "TAoM" will tell you, among others: - How to shave like your grandpa - How to help a friend with a problem - How to perform a fireman's carry - How to deliver a baby in a pinch - How to land a plane without the pilot - How to be a perfect houseguest ... and so on. While these are surely manly skills, they won't exactly transform you into a manly man. One can still be a basement dweller who knows how to shave like his grandpa. However, there are also thing like: - How to give a man hug - How to tip properly - How to rock a pocket square - How to ask for a woman's hand in marriage - How to ask your fiancé's father for her hand - How to give your woman flowers like a Victorian gentleman - How to braid your daughter's hair (which the author assures us is as manly as tying a sailor's knot) One cannot help but awkwardly raise an eyebrow at many of these "manly" tips. First of all, the author assumes you will be indeed going out dressing like a Victorian gentlemen, and builds from that. In this day and age, this is simply absurd. But Bret McKay claims that is the way men should be garbed today. I am supposed, for example, to hang out with my friends somewhere, dressed in a full, custom-tailored suit and shined shoes, with a derby on my head, a handkerchief in my breast pocket, and a cane in my hand. Yeah, sure. I'd to that, if it's Halloween and I'm going trick-or-treating. Furthermore, a following chapter even teaches you how to fight with your cane against another cane-wielding time traveler from the Victorian past. Bottom line is, some of the advices are extremely outdated and just not applicable in the modern society. I mean, before the Victorian dandies, people were walking around naked but for loincloths. Other wore bearskins and the skulls of their enemies dangling from their waists. That was manly once, but I doubt you'll be walking outside dressed like that. When not only outdated, some advices are the diametric opposite of manly. I'm mainly referring to The Lover chapter. If you don't want t behave like a complete pussy and beta man, I suggest you don't use these "tips" in practice. The chapter (and the one about marriage) is steeped in feminist propaganda which puts a woman on a raised dais and lowers the man to the status of a slave who has to dance on her every whim. You're even provided with a chart detailing the subtle meaning of every flower, so you can combine them accordingly with your apology while you're kneeling in front of her begging for forgiveness or expressing your unwavering adoration for this most noble and precious creature of all in the Universe. To top it off, one of the most absurd statements advises you to walk on the outside of the sidewalk, so that, I quote, "your lady [is] farther from the traffic. This way, if someone is going to be splashed, it will be you, not her." Yes, really manly, no doubt, not to mention that it goes against pretty much everything affirmed in studies dealing with behavioral psychology of women. They do not want you to act like that. They search for alpha males (the definition of the term being far too complicated to discuss here), not whipped dogs that cower in front of them. All the bullshit aside, there are indeed some valuable advices to be found within these pages (like the ones about raising resilient kids), while other are simply meh. When all is said and done, I felt that much of this book was filler to reach a page quota, and certainly far from being some invaluable manly wisdom. Much of it are general tips and how-to's that you knew one way or the other. To conclude, "The Art of Manliness" is a very mediocre read.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Jim

    I'm always moaning over the generally boorish behaviour of your average North American male, so every once in a while I like to read a little something to refresh those parts of my memory that deal with culture and etiquette. This book seemed ideal as it promised to deal with classic skills and manners for the modern man. The book lives up to its promise, sort of, as it does touch lightly on manners, dress and propriety, but most of the book is nonsense. Well, not nonsense, exactly, but a bunch o I'm always moaning over the generally boorish behaviour of your average North American male, so every once in a while I like to read a little something to refresh those parts of my memory that deal with culture and etiquette. This book seemed ideal as it promised to deal with classic skills and manners for the modern man. The book lives up to its promise, sort of, as it does touch lightly on manners, dress and propriety, but most of the book is nonsense. Well, not nonsense, exactly, but a bunch of malarkey that will never be encountered by one man in a million. How to land an aircraft, for instance. Or treat a snakebite. Predict the weather. Tie knots. Fight a man with your overcoat. In other words, a bunch of filler. This is a book I could have written: just give me a book of etiquette, a copy each of the Boy Scout and Toastmasters manuals, any book by Dale Carnegie, and a first aid workbook, and I could have cobbled this together in a couple of weeks. If I had any instinct for success or profit, I could have been making money from a book like this instead of spending money on it. Full points to the McKays for outsmarting me on this one. The book does have some parts that adolescent males and I will find amusing, such as this delightful excerpt from page 73: " the home, transformed by the period's so-called "cult of domesticity", had become an effeminate, doily-laden foo-foo abode...". Come on, that's funny right there, as Larry the Cable Guy would say. Another thing that got my goat was the fact that the book is poorly illustrated. There are rather crude drawings to illustrate teaching points, but the points the authors chose to illustrate puzzled hell out of me. As an example, they go on a laborious explanation detailing how to tie a Windsor knot in a tie with never a diagram to shed some light on the mystery (other than a drawing depicting the end result). Later in the chapter on chivalry they have a captioned drawing of a gentleman holding open a door for a lady. I would have preferred if they had permitted me to trust my imagination for the mental image of opening the door but given me a diagram of the steps of tying the knot. Ultimately, I believe any male of my advanced years should be in possession of most of the information found herein. The book has a lot of good information in it, and does have a niche in the reading world. If we could get every male to read it at puberty, maybe it would do some good, but most adult men should have already been taught this behaviour by their fathers.

  4. 5 out of 5

    Geoffrey Morris

    There's a lot of bullshit in this book. For one, it denigrates individual therapy with a very broad brush, which is 1) crap because most of us emerge from our initial family life in an immature state, and no amount of walking in the woods will fix that and 2) it tells people like me, who have literally been saved from death by their own hand because of therapy, that they're wasting their time in therapy. So fuck you, Brett McKay. I'm sure that you would have given my mother a really convincing a There's a lot of bullshit in this book. For one, it denigrates individual therapy with a very broad brush, which is 1) crap because most of us emerge from our initial family life in an immature state, and no amount of walking in the woods will fix that and 2) it tells people like me, who have literally been saved from death by their own hand because of therapy, that they're wasting their time in therapy. So fuck you, Brett McKay. I'm sure that you would have given my mother a really convincing argument about how building a fire without a lighter would've kept me from jumping off of a bridge. There are some good things in here. The main thing that's obvious is that men need the community of other men, in person, on a routine basis. If that's not group therapy, I don't know what it really is. He's advocating therapy while denigrating it and cloaking what he considers socially acceptable in a shroud of "manliness". What the fuck ever, dude. Brett McKay's writing makes him seem like a complete dick.

  5. 4 out of 5

    Tom Metge

    Being married for 10 years to the most wonderful woman I have ever met has taught me something that we all tend to admit only intellectually: men and women are different, even radically different at times. The American society tends to devalue that difference in the name of seeking equality. This goal is admirable, but the approach is wrong-footed. This is why I love this book: it asserts that there is value to this difference, that there is worth to being a man. What is wonderful about this adm Being married for 10 years to the most wonderful woman I have ever met has taught me something that we all tend to admit only intellectually: men and women are different, even radically different at times. The American society tends to devalue that difference in the name of seeking equality. This goal is admirable, but the approach is wrong-footed. This is why I love this book: it asserts that there is value to this difference, that there is worth to being a man. What is wonderful about this admission is that, unlike our society's current approach to establishing gender equality, it assigns value to one gender without stripping it from the other. Others have said it and I will repeat it here: I wish I had read this book earlier in my life. The skills it teaches can be quaint but the message it sends is one I will share with my sons: being male is part of who we are and that is a good thing. Just as good, in fact, as being a woman.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Khanh Cao

    All in all, quite a book on how to practice the Art of Manliness. I should have given it a 3, but for the enjoyable last chapters, I give it a 4. Most of the book involves in doing a set of particular things, to meet "a man's standard", but it does not answer the question "how do those things trigger a man's masculinity?", "what is the underlying psychology mechanism?", etc.. Just like when you give someone great examples to follow but you forgot to tell them what are the underlying meanings of th All in all, quite a book on how to practice the Art of Manliness. I should have given it a 3, but for the enjoyable last chapters, I give it a 4. Most of the book involves in doing a set of particular things, to meet "a man's standard", but it does not answer the question "how do those things trigger a man's masculinity?", "what is the underlying psychology mechanism?", etc.. Just like when you give someone great examples to follow but you forgot to tell them what are the underlying meanings of those, why the bad guys act like the bad guys and if in any other circumstances, would they act differently, etc... My opinion is, if one hasn't got a good foundation on manliness theories already (such as the answers to these questions: what should be the core beliefs of a man, what should the viewpoints of "me" in another man's eyes be, etc..), reading this book may make you feel a little bit off track, and even if any progress is made, it will most likely have short-term impact. However, one should still read it if he is unclear of the actions he should take, but has already been sure of what his values and beliefs should be.

  7. 5 out of 5

    Josiah

    "Manliness" has found itself sequestered to either the macho realm of false bravado or the neutered face of too many sitcom dads. This book finds a more measured approach to the topic. General etiquette need not be lost with the rise of Facebook, there's nothing wrong with uphoding basic etiquette towards women while simultaneously championing gender equality and there's nothing "gay" about having close male friends that--only in recent generations--have been frowned upon if the connection goes "Manliness" has found itself sequestered to either the macho realm of false bravado or the neutered face of too many sitcom dads. This book finds a more measured approach to the topic. General etiquette need not be lost with the rise of Facebook, there's nothing wrong with uphoding basic etiquette towards women while simultaneously championing gender equality and there's nothing "gay" about having close male friends that--only in recent generations--have been frowned upon if the connection goes further than "drinking buddies" or guys to vent your womenly troubles with. The book mentions men it perceives to be of great virtue (some of which I questioned, but not wholly) such as Theodore Roosevelt, Benjamin Franklin and others who felt it okay to be a good man through virtuous acts and honest attempts at improvement...regardless of the push from any religious entanglement or guilt. It hearkens to a more "romantic" age where men could be exalted as "manly" without being arrogant, sarcastic, sexist and homophobic. It was difficult for me to find much to disagree with, although I always shy away from looking at any period of time as the ideal age of anything. It's a proper etiquette book for the post-enlightenment and post sexual-revolution generations and an interesting read for any guy looking for some inspiration and tips for improvement. It's witty, straight-forward and full of amusing anecdotes and "how-to" guides. I was entertained by it but--more importantly--found myself in some serious introspection that has lingered since reading it which seems to have been the author's ultimate goal.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Will Wilson

    A great book loaded with a lot of instructional material that anyone might find interesting . I recommend booking marking pages of things you find interesting then after you finish reading out those things into practice such as learning how to locate Polaris , using your watch as a compass, or how to be a great party guest .

  9. 4 out of 5

    Pvw

    A truly remarkable book! At first I feared it might contain a lot of drabble about etiquette rules, but that fortunately wasn't so. Although that subject is mentioned, there are many things more, one of which is sound advice on how to be likeable to other people. Many of the behavioral principles resemble those found in Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, and justly so. "The Art of Manliness" contains interesting tips on how to dress well, descriptions of different kinds of h A truly remarkable book! At first I feared it might contain a lot of drabble about etiquette rules, but that fortunately wasn't so. Although that subject is mentioned, there are many things more, one of which is sound advice on how to be likeable to other people. Many of the behavioral principles resemble those found in Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, and justly so. "The Art of Manliness" contains interesting tips on how to dress well, descriptions of different kinds of hats and ways to tie a tie. But those are just a few of the myriad of subjects appearing in the book. "The Art of Manliness" teaches you streetfighting, changing a flat tyre, landing a plane, rocking a crying baby to sleep, entertaining a lady, breaking up gently with a girlfriend and giving a manly handshake. All of that is contained in a stylish cover that perfectly fits the text and the illustrations. A great book to own yourself, and to give to a friend.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Adil

    The Art of Manliness is a guide to becoming a better man by focusing on one's mannerisms, dress, and intelligence. The book posits that modern men have become stuck in 'permanent adolescence' and are not up to task on the necessary virtues and strengths which belonged to the men of the past. Leaning upon past paragons like Theodore Roosevelt and Benjamin Franklin, this book covers different aspects of becoming a better man in today's society by eliminating time-wasters, maintaining cleanliness, a The Art of Manliness is a guide to becoming a better man by focusing on one's mannerisms, dress, and intelligence. The book posits that modern men have become stuck in 'permanent adolescence' and are not up to task on the necessary virtues and strengths which belonged to the men of the past. Leaning upon past paragons like Theodore Roosevelt and Benjamin Franklin, this book covers different aspects of becoming a better man in today's society by eliminating time-wasters, maintaining cleanliness, and upholding fidelity. Different sections include: The Gentleman (improve your manners and physical being), The Friend (become a sturdy and reliable acquaintance), The Lover (become a faithful and committed husband or significant-other), and The Leader (project confidence and learn to shoulder some responsibility). This book, while highly idealistic, is an essential read for what the authors call 'The Lost Generation' of current men.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Eric Moote

    Overall: a great source of essential to random qualities every man should have or strive for. I have been a fan of the website for years and I was excited when this book and the Manvationals came out. The book, at times, felt like a summary of all of the website's articles, but for the not-so-fanatical, the book is a perfect balance of sage wisdom, inspirational advice and kick-in-the-pants motivation that every man needs from time to time. I would and have recommended the books and the website to Overall: a great source of essential to random qualities every man should have or strive for. I have been a fan of the website for years and I was excited when this book and the Manvationals came out. The book, at times, felt like a summary of all of the website's articles, but for the not-so-fanatical, the book is a perfect balance of sage wisdom, inspirational advice and kick-in-the-pants motivation that every man needs from time to time. I would and have recommended the books and the website to every man, boy, man-boy, and woman that I know. They are great sources of topics that will lead you down the path of discovering who you are as a man, husband, brother and friend. Buy the book. Then read it. Then give it away as a bachelor party / groomsman / birthday / coming into manhood / "you are a sissy boy and need a swift kick in the shorts" present. Then follow the website.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Risa

    I am adding this to my read because i read it for free in Border's, which took 2.5 minutes and reviewing it because half of the motherfuckers who put this on their "to-read" list have faces that look like they shave with a lawn mower blade strapped to a broom handle and wielded by a blind monkey-- so I am telling you now that you do not need to put off reading this for long; you will need hardly forfeit an entire afternoon and you might actually take an interest in your appearance and its affect I am adding this to my read because i read it for free in Border's, which took 2.5 minutes and reviewing it because half of the motherfuckers who put this on their "to-read" list have faces that look like they shave with a lawn mower blade strapped to a broom handle and wielded by a blind monkey-- so I am telling you now that you do not need to put off reading this for long; you will need hardly forfeit an entire afternoon and you might actually take an interest in your appearance and its affect on others by 3pm that very same day. Really, why put it off? Don't you feel inspired to go read it and take it into your heart right this very minute? The worst thing that could happen is that you might learn to shave, actually tie a tie that doesn't look like a noose, and learn how to teach a kid to ride a bike. there are worse fates.

  13. 5 out of 5

    Keenan Johnston

    Obvious and Banal. Only good as a coffee table book

  14. 4 out of 5

    Simon

    Meh, learnt I was polishing my shoes wrong all my life but I doubt I'd remember how to tie a strong knot after reading it in this book. Good idea for the book though but probably wouldn't recommend it. Meh, learnt I was polishing my shoes wrong all my life but I doubt I'd remember how to tie a strong knot after reading it in this book. Good idea for the book though but probably wouldn't recommend it.

  15. 5 out of 5

    Jonathan Johnson

    Good book Good book This book hits all of the points From chivalry to self care, every page of this book is devoted to trying to help guys become better men I recommend this book for guys graduating high school as a right of passage book, or for men that are currently expecting a child and want some tips on being a good father/husband

  16. 4 out of 5

    Paul

    I think I mainly started reading this because I couldn't find anything else to read. I was hoping it would have more specific advice, sometimes the corresponding website has useful tips and tricks. This was mostly a sort of etiquette guide aiming at a specific conception of "manliness" that lives somewhere between nerd and hipster. I think at one point they suggest that you wear a fedora, which is really just not something most people can pull off. It's not the most moralizing type of thing that I think I mainly started reading this because I couldn't find anything else to read. I was hoping it would have more specific advice, sometimes the corresponding website has useful tips and tricks. This was mostly a sort of etiquette guide aiming at a specific conception of "manliness" that lives somewhere between nerd and hipster. I think at one point they suggest that you wear a fedora, which is really just not something most people can pull off. It's not the most moralizing type of thing that I've ever read, but they do not do the critical step of saying, "If you do X, the consequence will be Y". Instead, they say, "You should do X", as if the advice they are giving out is universal and always applies. There are some things where I could obviously see how it would be useful to do some of the things they suggest, but I had to work that out myself.

  17. 5 out of 5

    AJ

    Pros: If you always wanted to be a boy scout and have a strong male role model and never got the chance, this will help fill some of that gap. Except that role model will take the form of a well-meaning but out-of-touch grandfather. That said, I learned some great life skills, and it motivated me to want to try some new things I haven't done before. It also made Victorian-esque Gentlemen seem really cool. I appreciated the effort in putting this book together and the careful consideration of wha Pros: If you always wanted to be a boy scout and have a strong male role model and never got the chance, this will help fill some of that gap. Except that role model will take the form of a well-meaning but out-of-touch grandfather. That said, I learned some great life skills, and it motivated me to want to try some new things I haven't done before. It also made Victorian-esque Gentlemen seem really cool. I appreciated the effort in putting this book together and the careful consideration of what was of value to include, there was just enough in each section without it being overwhelming. The narrator on the audiobook was excellent. Cons: A heterocentrist, heterosexist viewpoint that is critical and dismissive of femininity in men. At times the language was cringeworthy and it was tough to overlook. This book was also pretty out of touch when it came to discussion of relationships.

  18. 4 out of 5

    J. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    I loved this book. I wish I could force every single beibertard I pass to read it. Excellent advice throughout, I hope my daughters use this measurement of a "real man" to pick their future husbands. Books that interest me in a topic enough to cause me to look that topic up always get bonus points and I found myself jotting more that one "look this up" reminder. The narrator did an excellent job. If I have any problem with the book it's in the chapter suggesting civic duty and encouraging men to gi I loved this book. I wish I could force every single beibertard I pass to read it. Excellent advice throughout, I hope my daughters use this measurement of a "real man" to pick their future husbands. Books that interest me in a topic enough to cause me to look that topic up always get bonus points and I found myself jotting more that one "look this up" reminder. The narrator did an excellent job. If I have any problem with the book it's in the chapter suggesting civic duty and encouraging men to give back to their community. I agree with those ideas whole heartedly, but the chapter is kicked off with a statement about how some people are born with a disadvantage. The only people that are born with a disadvantage are people who believe they've been born with a disadvantage.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Antheia

    could be pretty useful if it wasn't 99% pictures and 1% text but taking into account that i expected a macho sexist manly man book, this more than exceeded my expectations could be pretty useful if it wasn't 99% pictures and 1% text but taking into account that i expected a macho sexist manly man book, this more than exceeded my expectations

  20. 4 out of 5

    Jeremy

    True to the subtitle, this book does deliver advice on skills and manners. It covers a wide range of topics from clothes to communication, dating to friendship, and work to play. It’s pretty much what you would expect if the title were “The Art of Gentlemanliness.” Some of the skills covered don’t seem to me to deserve the label “something every man should know,” like how to make a kite out of black trash bags and sticks, but I could be wrong. I also found it curious that they stressed the impor True to the subtitle, this book does deliver advice on skills and manners. It covers a wide range of topics from clothes to communication, dating to friendship, and work to play. It’s pretty much what you would expect if the title were “The Art of Gentlemanliness.” Some of the skills covered don’t seem to me to deserve the label “something every man should know,” like how to make a kite out of black trash bags and sticks, but I could be wrong. I also found it curious that they stressed the importance of knowing how to box in case you’re caught in a bar fight, but not of having a basic knowledge of firearms. The final chapter on virtue is basically a summary of Benjamin Franklin’s autobiography, which I should read soon. Mostly I finished feeling like a slacker for not: - Dressing better - Being a member of the Masons - Going camping more often - Buying my wife roses using commonly understood Victorian-era messages based on the color and type of flower - Knowing that the emergency radio frequency for an aircraft is 121.5 MHz (I mean, duh!) - Having any confidence whatsoever that I’ll remember that the emergency radio frequency for an aircraft is 121.5 MHz if the plane I’m on suddenly needs me to pilot it to the ground (I really hope this part was tongue-in-cheek, but I couldn’t tell from listening to the audio edition) Overall, it’s worth the read, but beware: you might feel like you need to man up! Potent Quotables: “Shared joy is double joy; shared sorrow is half sorrow.” Swedish proverb “A boy doesn't have to go to war to be a hero; he can say he doesn't like pie when he sees there isn't enough to go around.” E. W. Howe

  21. 5 out of 5

    Billie Pritchett

    In The Art of Manliness, Brett McKay sets out some of his and his wife's ideas regarding how a man should think and behave in the 21st century. I personally enjoyed the many different approaches McKay took in addressing manhood. For instance, McKay argues that in addition to so-called traditional manly tasks like changing a tire, chopping wood, and so on, a man ought to cultivate his mind through books, absorb some philosophy, and adapt his character to fit the different roles he occupies as a s In The Art of Manliness, Brett McKay sets out some of his and his wife's ideas regarding how a man should think and behave in the 21st century. I personally enjoyed the many different approaches McKay took in addressing manhood. For instance, McKay argues that in addition to so-called traditional manly tasks like changing a tire, chopping wood, and so on, a man ought to cultivate his mind through books, absorb some philosophy, and adapt his character to fit the different roles he occupies as a son, romantic partner or husband, friend, leader. That's all good. What didn't sit well with me about the book is that I don't think it ultimately came together to form one picture of a modern man. I was having difficulty picturing what this man would look like, and some of the examples he cites I think err toward some extremes and not others. For instance, Teddy Roosevelt may have been adventurous but by all accounts he was a very egotistical person. Jack London was quite the outdoorsman, but I wonder how he fared as family man--and I couldn't imagine his type in an office setting. Another problem with the overall project, I think, is that manliness or masculinity, whatever it may be, ought not be something someone is too self-conscious about it. Among my own generation, early millennials, I see men so concerned with 'acting like men,' but I never saw this concern among my father's or grandfather's generation. Now, it may very well have been a concern, but I didn't see it. In any case, it seems to me to be more important to cultivate oneself as a good person, citizen, religious being, and everything else will follow naturally. My two cents.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Henry

    - Always arrive with a gift to the host - Always complement host for hosting - While in a group conversation, always make room so others can join - Also in group conversation, never always just speak to one person - If in a group conversation people are saying mean things about another person, always defend such person - When staying with someone, always make sure the person has your schedule. Be thoughtful, bring gifts, pay for groceries, write thank you cards - Always be intentional with someone you - Always arrive with a gift to the host - Always complement host for hosting - While in a group conversation, always make room so others can join - Also in group conversation, never always just speak to one person - If in a group conversation people are saying mean things about another person, always defend such person - When staying with someone, always make sure the person has your schedule. Be thoughtful, bring gifts, pay for groceries, write thank you cards - Always be intentional with someone you want romantic interests with, never ask to just "hang out" - Be thoughtful and bring flowers during special occasions (or better - during surprise occasions). In addition, know which flower represents what - When marrying, you're marrying into the girl's family. Hence, very important to get them well, especially get the father's blessing (ask to spend private time with the father, meet several times in neutral areas: coffee shops etc, before asking for blessing) - Know "the one": 1) You don't want to change anything about her, 2) she gets along well with your family and friends, 3) she is your best friend, 4) she has intense physical and mental chemistry with you - Be funny, but never make stupid humor that shines dark light on you, your equals or the venue. Have tasteful self deprecating jokes - Good to be involve with a group, such as: Book club, fraternity lodge or Toastmaster - Never name drop, experience drop, one up (when someone said others does something great, you have the urge to say "well, I'm better"). Always give credit when credit is due

  23. 5 out of 5

    MariLee

    Brett and Kate McKay have found a niche in writing about the art of being a gentleman--a man's man--as defined by character traits in days gone by. Their theory (which I believe to be true) is that we have lost something in our modern, technology-driven society regarding the development of self-reliance, character, practical skills, fitness, and manners. They often refer to men such as Jack London, Teddy Roosevelt, Winston Churchill, Benjamin Franklin, and others who can serve as models of what Brett and Kate McKay have found a niche in writing about the art of being a gentleman--a man's man--as defined by character traits in days gone by. Their theory (which I believe to be true) is that we have lost something in our modern, technology-driven society regarding the development of self-reliance, character, practical skills, fitness, and manners. They often refer to men such as Jack London, Teddy Roosevelt, Winston Churchill, Benjamin Franklin, and others who can serve as models of what today's men can and should be. This book is a manual of sorts that is divided up into different sections such as The Gentleman, The Friend, The Hero, The Lover, The Father, The Outdoorsman, The Leader, and The Virtuous Man. Each section is further divided up into subheadings and actionable items, along with detailed and practical advice for mastering each of the skills or traits. I enjoyed reading this and would recommend it for older teens and younger men, especially as they are leaving home, during the college years, early married life, etc. (Heading Out On Your Own, another of their books, is especially designed for young men leaving home for the first time). However, there is enough information that would likely appeal to men of any age, especially those who may be interested in continual self-improvement. I would also recommend their blog http://www.artofmanliness.com/ which is enjoyable and includes much more information.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Omar

    To be frankly honest the title is quite misleading, there is no in-depth articulation in what makes a man through either skills or manner, it was never gender exclusive except of course when describing multiple ways to tie a tie. But the other part of the title that the book is focused on is the classic part of manliness, the attitude to life and the skills needed to perform them. Of course these skills and manners can be argued to be gender neutral but many parts focused on the common traits of To be frankly honest the title is quite misleading, there is no in-depth articulation in what makes a man through either skills or manner, it was never gender exclusive except of course when describing multiple ways to tie a tie. But the other part of the title that the book is focused on is the classic part of manliness, the attitude to life and the skills needed to perform them. Of course these skills and manners can be argued to be gender neutral but many parts focused on the common traits of previous inspirational men; from Marcus Aurelius to Benjamin Franklin. And that is what saved this book for me, in which the last two chapters, especially the last one; the virtuous man, fixed the book's most major flaw; forcing you to read a guide. How to read the stars in case you get lost in the desert at night, (how to wash your clothes???), etc.. which are not only boring to go through, but also merely survival skills that can't under any circumstances be called "manly skills." The only way I see most of this book working is being target at a modern pansy spoiled teenager. But even then, I highly doubt that kind of audience would care for such a book. Alas, the last chapter was great and left a sweet taste in my mouth, which is exciting me for another Brett McKay book, which goes more in-depth into the "virtuous man" domain; "Manvotionals."

  25. 5 out of 5

    Nick Rossi

    If you are looking for a few tips on how to man up, and become a modern gentleman, this book provides several good insights. Written, along with help from his wife, by the founder of a popular website for men that bears the same name, this book contains well-rounded information. The author, Brett McKay, recognizes that the roles have changed in society for men and women. This has led to some confusion and helped served as an impetus for this book, with the goal to help men refine their identity If you are looking for a few tips on how to man up, and become a modern gentleman, this book provides several good insights. Written, along with help from his wife, by the founder of a popular website for men that bears the same name, this book contains well-rounded information. The author, Brett McKay, recognizes that the roles have changed in society for men and women. This has led to some confusion and helped served as an impetus for this book, with the goal to help men refine their identity and approach. McKay recognizes the dynamic life men must lead and chapters topic titles include the gentleman, leader, friend, lover, hero, leader, outdoorsman, father and the virtuous man. Within the chapters men can gain advice on style, dating, service, how to give a speech, plan an effective bachelor party, make a kite, tie a few basic knots, effective communication and how to transition into marriage. Lessons from influential men in history, such as Teddy Roosevelt and Benjamin Franklin are woven into the book. Rudyard Kipling's poem If is also included along with a Flower Meaning Guide for men looking to have some meaning behind their petal sacrifice. Many illustrations are included in this quick read, which is bound to encourage the man looking to boost his game.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Eric Estes

    I have browsed and read McKay's website over the years and found it entertaining and helpful. It's good that there are sites like his that explore things that men generally like. Most of the advice in the book can be found on the website. The book is a bit dated now, so the section on Social Media needs updating (it was still good etiquette advice though). There are some sections that were less than useful. Describing self defense in steps is not going to prepare anyone. He doesn't consider disc I have browsed and read McKay's website over the years and found it entertaining and helpful. It's good that there are sites like his that explore things that men generally like. Most of the advice in the book can be found on the website. The book is a bit dated now, so the section on Social Media needs updating (it was still good etiquette advice though). There are some sections that were less than useful. Describing self defense in steps is not going to prepare anyone. He doesn't consider discussing firearms and conceal carrying to protect your family (maybe he doesn't want to be too controversial for some readers). Like other reviewers have said there are biases towards the author's particular perspective of what manliness is. I didn't read this as a philosophical tome on manhood, but an entertainingly written advice book that one can glean for ideas. One may not always entirely agree with the advice or how the author colors certain topics with his opinions, but I for one didn't read this as an overly serious book.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Jason

    This book is chock full of bits and pieces of advice and guidance on various aspects of what the author believes contribute to manliness. They range from high level to detailed, very useful to what I consider straight up bad advice (I thought his encouragement to dress like a 1930’s mobster with fedora and all was frankly laughable and terrible advice). Some you can use every day (building character) and some you’ll almost certainly never use (how to land a plane). Overall though, there’s some g This book is chock full of bits and pieces of advice and guidance on various aspects of what the author believes contribute to manliness. They range from high level to detailed, very useful to what I consider straight up bad advice (I thought his encouragement to dress like a 1930’s mobster with fedora and all was frankly laughable and terrible advice). Some you can use every day (building character) and some you’ll almost certainly never use (how to land a plane). Overall though, there’s some great ideas and information in here. Rather than one specific piece of advice, my biggest takeaway from the book is that the man I want to be and all that entails is something that needs to be actively thought about and consistently cultivated. It’s not something that just happens by accident, and it’s a lifelong journey. In that vein, it’s definitely an inspiration to explore what that means and add structure to my life to pursue it.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Dimitar

    A good self-help book for men, also adding perspective on life to them, but not great. Some of the advice in it is old-fashioned (sometimes in a bad way), inaccurate or impractical. On a couple of occasions the authors also contradict themselves - for example, if they don't like something and their solution is cheaper, they will add the cheapness as another reason why you should follow it, but if their advice is more expensive, they will throw out a rhetoric of the likes of "yeah, it's more expe A good self-help book for men, also adding perspective on life to them, but not great. Some of the advice in it is old-fashioned (sometimes in a bad way), inaccurate or impractical. On a couple of occasions the authors also contradict themselves - for example, if they don't like something and their solution is cheaper, they will add the cheapness as another reason why you should follow it, but if their advice is more expensive, they will throw out a rhetoric of the likes of "yeah, it's more expensive but just a little bit, but you are much better off". Besides, even though they didn't say it, the authors wouldn't shy away from shaming you for not tipping for services that didn't occur to you that you should tip or add a tip in addition to your tip. The book does a good job if you are looking to create a better version of yourself though, just be cautious on what advice to take and what advice to leave.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Clarissa

    So, I’m not a man. Not interested in being a man, but I am married to a man and have sons that will grow up to become men. This book was interesting, entertaining, a bit crazy at times, and completely sound at others. I appreciate the approach of tackling different components of being a person (from the somewhat fluffy habit of how one dresses to the more legitimate and consequential aspect of morality and virtue). I also like the throwback/tie-in to history and being more attentive and intentio So, I’m not a man. Not interested in being a man, but I am married to a man and have sons that will grow up to become men. This book was interesting, entertaining, a bit crazy at times, and completely sound at others. I appreciate the approach of tackling different components of being a person (from the somewhat fluffy habit of how one dresses to the more legitimate and consequential aspect of morality and virtue). I also like the throwback/tie-in to history and being more attentive and intentional in recognizing (and preserving or adopting) the worthwhile customs, behaviors, and truths of bygone eras. If my boys never don a bowler hat or have to land an airplane, are they doomed in the manliness department? I think not. But if they learn to value and demonstrate ideals such as moderation, manners, and hard work, then huzzah. It’s a decent book to get a parent or a somewhat self aware youth thinking about who they can or might want to become.

  30. 5 out of 5

    Rish Fernando

    Where do I start? This book is the must-read of all must-reads on the internet for men of all ages. Teenagers who are growing up and men who have grown up can benefit from this book that breaks down and dives deep into the core of a Classic Gentlemen. Not only the outward appearance of a well-mannered individual but the inner core of a chivalrous, courageous, and humble man. This book ranges from the gentlemen's martial arts to presenting flowers like a Victorian Gentlemen and Setting up camp. I Where do I start? This book is the must-read of all must-reads on the internet for men of all ages. Teenagers who are growing up and men who have grown up can benefit from this book that breaks down and dives deep into the core of a Classic Gentlemen. Not only the outward appearance of a well-mannered individual but the inner core of a chivalrous, courageous, and humble man. This book ranges from the gentlemen's martial arts to presenting flowers like a Victorian Gentlemen and Setting up camp. I took to heart every single thing I learned, and plan to implement it as it comes along. I can't stress enough on the importance of reading this for teenagers like myself, it is a whole new world of being manly.

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