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It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people—especially women—to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women—more than half of those in her extensi It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people—especially women—to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women—more than half of those in her extensive study—are doing it too much and too often, leading to sadness, anxiety, and depression. She challenges the assumption—heralded by so many pop-psychology pundits of the last several decades—that constantly expressing and analyzing our emotions is a good thing. In Women Who Think Too Much, Nolen-Hoeksema shows us what causes so many women to be overthinkers and provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative thoughts, move to higher ground, and live more productively. Women Who Think Too Much will change lives, and is destined to become a self-help classic.


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It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people—especially women—to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women—more than half of those in her extensi It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people—especially women—to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women—more than half of those in her extensive study—are doing it too much and too often, leading to sadness, anxiety, and depression. She challenges the assumption—heralded by so many pop-psychology pundits of the last several decades—that constantly expressing and analyzing our emotions is a good thing. In Women Who Think Too Much, Nolen-Hoeksema shows us what causes so many women to be overthinkers and provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative thoughts, move to higher ground, and live more productively. Women Who Think Too Much will change lives, and is destined to become a self-help classic.

30 review for Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life

  1. 4 out of 5

    Sarah

    One thing annoyed me greatly. Whenever the author is introducing a woman in one of her examples, she always describes them as a "plucky blonde with sparkling blue eyes." I couldn't help but be distracted by how tacky and stereotypical this comes off. It really turned me off to the book. One thing annoyed me greatly. Whenever the author is introducing a woman in one of her examples, she always describes them as a "plucky blonde with sparkling blue eyes." I couldn't help but be distracted by how tacky and stereotypical this comes off. It really turned me off to the book.

  2. 5 out of 5

    Lastoadri

    I don't know why it is titled : "Women who think too much". I think the book is relevant to both men and women. I am really glad to have read this book.. it doesn't really answer all questions, but it gives good advises to beat overthinking.. I am sure, I shall read it again some time soon. The best thing about it is mainly the case studies, and life scenarios. It makes ideas very clear, as if I am living each situation exactly. Most probably the reactions mentioned would be exactly my reaction if I don't know why it is titled : "Women who think too much". I think the book is relevant to both men and women. I am really glad to have read this book.. it doesn't really answer all questions, but it gives good advises to beat overthinking.. I am sure, I shall read it again some time soon. The best thing about it is mainly the case studies, and life scenarios. It makes ideas very clear, as if I am living each situation exactly. Most probably the reactions mentioned would be exactly my reaction if I am in that place.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Katie Franco-mayorga

    Really good book. I read it in the library cuz it caught my eye because lately I have been over thinking my relationship with my bf. And it was very helpful. Made me feel better and I actually was taking a walk to try and clear my mind and ended up at the bookstore. So what she says about doing something for urself helps u not over think so much is so true. Not being so clingy giving ur partner space and not always trying to fix ur relationship or over analyzing every little thing he does. I rec Really good book. I read it in the library cuz it caught my eye because lately I have been over thinking my relationship with my bf. And it was very helpful. Made me feel better and I actually was taking a walk to try and clear my mind and ended up at the bookstore. So what she says about doing something for urself helps u not over think so much is so true. Not being so clingy giving ur partner space and not always trying to fix ur relationship or over analyzing every little thing he does. I recommend this book to anyone who is overt honking and over analyzing their relationships

  4. 5 out of 5

    Jamie

    Some of the case studies in the book really annoyed me; as another reviewer said, is it necessary for us to know the eye and hair color of all of the women discussed? No. That said, I did appreciate the straightforward manner that Nolen-Hoeksema approaches the over thinking problem and practical tips for managing it. As a chronic ruminator, it was helpful to me to realize that I am not solving problems by thinking about them all the time; instead I am making them worse. Obviously not all of her Some of the case studies in the book really annoyed me; as another reviewer said, is it necessary for us to know the eye and hair color of all of the women discussed? No. That said, I did appreciate the straightforward manner that Nolen-Hoeksema approaches the over thinking problem and practical tips for managing it. As a chronic ruminator, it was helpful to me to realize that I am not solving problems by thinking about them all the time; instead I am making them worse. Obviously not all of her tips for managing negative thoughts will work for everyone but I think some deserve attention and implementation. Overall, I think this book is a worthy read if you have a tendency to over think.

  5. 5 out of 5

    Wiebke (1book1review)

    I picked this mostly as a procrastination short nonfiction read and didn't expect to find it this interesting. I am pretty prone to overthinking so I could relate to many of the examples and some of the strategies I already use and looking forward to having more to fall back on. It's probably not a life changing book for me, but it was informative and really good to listen to. I picked this mostly as a procrastination short nonfiction read and didn't expect to find it this interesting. I am pretty prone to overthinking so I could relate to many of the examples and some of the strategies I already use and looking forward to having more to fall back on. It's probably not a life changing book for me, but it was informative and really good to listen to.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Hoan

    Helpful in understanding whether you think too much and how to cope with that. Most women I know tend to have this issue and I think it's important to recognize and acknowledge the problem, while trying to keep it under control. Helpful in understanding whether you think too much and how to cope with that. Most women I know tend to have this issue and I think it's important to recognize and acknowledge the problem, while trying to keep it under control.

  7. 4 out of 5

    Lauren

    More of a 2.5 but being generous and rounding up to 3. This was a good book with helpful information. I appreciated all the references to scientific studies and then real-life examples to explain it in layman's terms. However, I found parts 1 and 2 to be most valuable. Part 3 about triggers felt like it was repeating previous sections of the book and didn't add much more value. PS: Still rolling my eyes at how most of the women in the examples were introduced. Sally, a blue-eyed leggy brunette... More of a 2.5 but being generous and rounding up to 3. This was a good book with helpful information. I appreciated all the references to scientific studies and then real-life examples to explain it in layman's terms. However, I found parts 1 and 2 to be most valuable. Part 3 about triggers felt like it was repeating previous sections of the book and didn't add much more value. PS: Still rolling my eyes at how most of the women in the examples were introduced. Sally, a blue-eyed leggy brunette..... ugh

  8. 5 out of 5

    Chris Wolak

    In the past, I've been told that I think too much and this was never meant as a compliment, so I resisted this book based on the title. It was recommended in another book I'd read, so I checked it out of the library. The sort of thinking the author is writing about here isn't deep thinking about a topic or even worrying. She's talking about being stuck in a negative thought habit about things that have happened which leads to sadness, anxiety, and depression. I did more of a heavy skim than a wo In the past, I've been told that I think too much and this was never meant as a compliment, so I resisted this book based on the title. It was recommended in another book I'd read, so I checked it out of the library. The sort of thinking the author is writing about here isn't deep thinking about a topic or even worrying. She's talking about being stuck in a negative thought habit about things that have happened which leads to sadness, anxiety, and depression. I did more of a heavy skim than a word-by-word reading (hence not giving a star rating), but I did write down several long passages to reflect upon. Near the end of the book, Nolen-Hoeksema makes the case for the need for quiet alone time to reconnect with ourselves and sort out our own values. This isn't just good for us as individuals or for our relationships, but such practice has far-reaching implications. She writes, "We cannot, as a society, choose leaders who represent our best values if we do not, as individuals, spend the necessary quiet time discovering and refining those values. Otherwise, we end up either letting other people make choices for us or going with the candidate who has the best ad campaign. We have an obligation not only to ourselves but to current and future generations to connect with our values and make choices as a citizen that reflect these values. Again, this takes time and turning down the volume." I checked the publication date after reading that paragraph. It was 2003.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Leslie - MamaNeedsABook

    Probably THE most relatable book I’ve ever read. I will probably read it over and over! One of those books that makes you say - So it’s not just me! My brain literally never stops. In fact I routinely have two lines of thought at any given time. Not to mention any kind of visual thoughts I might be having. It can be exhausting. So when something bad is happening - or all the bad things are happening all at once like lately!! - I am definitely one to OVERTHINK. And probably to over think about th Probably THE most relatable book I’ve ever read. I will probably read it over and over! One of those books that makes you say - So it’s not just me! My brain literally never stops. In fact I routinely have two lines of thought at any given time. Not to mention any kind of visual thoughts I might be having. It can be exhausting. So when something bad is happening - or all the bad things are happening all at once like lately!! - I am definitely one to OVERTHINK. And probably to over think about the 2-3 absolute WORST possible outcomes all at once! (And overthink about overthinking). Oh joy! Aren’t you happy you aren’t in my head? Well Susan Nolen-Hoeksma Ph.D is. She gets me. We are soul sisters! Thank God I am not the only one! And thank God she gives some super practical advice on how to just STOP! Without just telling me to get over it - because those 3 words have me overthinking for days every time! Lol - am I laughing or crying? Laughing? Oh good! It’s working then. If your brain never stops - if you catastrophize- if your anxieties have anxieties - READ THIS BOOK.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Emma

    I enjoyed this book. It not only helped me become more aware of my over thinking, and gave me ways to slow down a bit. It also helped me to see life struggles in a better light.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Kaitlin Williams

    I was given this book to borrow and read because it just simply transformed my best friend's life. My life, however, was not erratically changed like I was told it would be. Though, it definitely impacted me on a level that made me grateful to have read it at all. Regardless of the altering effects it may have had on me, it took me FOREVER to finish. I understand the layout of the book and why it was done the way it was, but because of this I literally fell asleep reading this a few times. Another I was given this book to borrow and read because it just simply transformed my best friend's life. My life, however, was not erratically changed like I was told it would be. Though, it definitely impacted me on a level that made me grateful to have read it at all. Regardless of the altering effects it may have had on me, it took me FOREVER to finish. I understand the layout of the book and why it was done the way it was, but because of this I literally fell asleep reading this a few times. Another detrimental flaw was the "real life stories" that were implemented throughout the whole book. There was a few I liked and felt were relate-able, but once a sentence started with "Take Jill for example," I could not help, but roll my eyes and try to prepare myself for an unrealistic circumstance. The stories were like something you would have read in school and to then be tested on. With the negativity laid out, I am a severe over thinker. I go crazy prattling on in my mind about something simple and insignificant. This overthinking could have started with a conversation I had that I felt went negatively and explode to why I have no friends. This is dramatic of course, but has unfortunately happened. It was nice to hear this was normal and more common in women. I know if I tell my boyfriend or father about something I am worried about they think I'm crazy and weird for worrying about something so trivial. Instead of just being told to let it go, this teaches you ways to start letting the simple and often silly things go so they don't drive you to madness in the middle of the night. I don't think the steps will be easy to follow, but a potential coping mechanism to alleviate some of the everyday stress is a blessing.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Lori Adell

    If you are an overthinker or worrier, this one is for you!

  13. 4 out of 5

    Teeba Salim

    Taken points: The book has three parts: 1-what’s wrong with overthinking,2-strategists of overcoming overthinking,and 3-Triggers for overthinking. Dr.Susan had experienced people who are over thinkers , carried out surveys, collected stories and studied them to know the reasons and solutions. Here are outcomes: 1-Our thoughts are as network and nodes that are connected to each one. If you think in one negative it will triggers other negative thoughts. 2-The grinding and burdens that convince women t Taken points: The book has three parts: 1-what’s wrong with overthinking,2-strategists of overcoming overthinking,and 3-Triggers for overthinking. Dr.Susan had experienced people who are over thinkers , carried out surveys, collected stories and studied them to know the reasons and solutions. Here are outcomes: 1-Our thoughts are as network and nodes that are connected to each one. If you think in one negative it will triggers other negative thoughts. 2-The grinding and burdens that convince women that they can do little to control and thus why they overthink 3- women often do not have the resources to break away from victimization 4-women engage in tit-for-tat overthinking Part 2: Some of Strategists for overcoming overthinking: 1- understand that overthinking is not your friend 2- Get up and get moving 3-Join the thought police 4- lean on others 5-Commit it to paper To reshape your life for the long term: 1-let go of unhealthy goals 2-Be gentle with yourself 3-consider finding new friends Part3:Triggers of overthinking: 1-Relationships 2-Family matters 3-works and careers 4-health problems My review: Dr.Susan enhances her book with many stories and situations. However in overall this book can be summarized in few papers instead of all these papers. Personally I see there many repetitive lines. She could give brief of the stories instead of all the details.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Jennifer

    To be fair, this book was slightly off-topic from what I was looking for help with so while I didn't find the advice useful in a lot of ways that could be why. This book is mostly about how modern women can get caught in cycles of overthinking and obsessing over stressful situations and how to break out of that cycle. My issue that I was looking for help with was how to re-train my brain to recall happy memories more easily in place of recalling unpleasant past experiences. There was some advice To be fair, this book was slightly off-topic from what I was looking for help with so while I didn't find the advice useful in a lot of ways that could be why. This book is mostly about how modern women can get caught in cycles of overthinking and obsessing over stressful situations and how to break out of that cycle. My issue that I was looking for help with was how to re-train my brain to recall happy memories more easily in place of recalling unpleasant past experiences. There was some advice that crossed over but a lot of it seemed inapplicable. I had a hard time with the idea that our lives are made more difficult by a lack of value systems, and that older people are better at preventing overthinking than younger generations and that we are idolizing young people and shunning the wisdom of older generations. Personally, I'm very interested in why older people may have more peace than us and I'm very interested in hearing their advice on how to prevent over-thinking and anxiety. But, there wasn't any of that included in the book except a "give it god" snippet, which I'm not sure how to translate as I'm not religious. Despite that the book is overall not particularly religious, a few people in the book find religion to be a calming and supporting influence in their lives but that's not the focus of the book. The advice was not bad but it just didn't apply to my situation.

  15. 4 out of 5

    Nancy

    The first two parts (An epidemic of overthinking & strategies for overcoming overthinking) were interesting to read. The realisation of how our mind gets into a chain reaction of negative thoughts made me self aware. I am a huge over thinker and found this book useful. The awareness alone made me overthink less and the provided tools are helpful. I did not read the last part (Triggers for overthinking), because these triggers remind me of my own personal stuff and did not find it interesting to The first two parts (An epidemic of overthinking & strategies for overcoming overthinking) were interesting to read. The realisation of how our mind gets into a chain reaction of negative thoughts made me self aware. I am a huge over thinker and found this book useful. The awareness alone made me overthink less and the provided tools are helpful. I did not read the last part (Triggers for overthinking), because these triggers remind me of my own personal stuff and did not find it interesting to read. Overall, if you're looking for a self-help book that explains the reasons and the negative spiral of overthinking, this might be the one. In addition, the tools might be of use as well, because whenever I find myself overthinking, I actually put them to practice, which actually works for me.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Emmalynne

    I enjoyed reading this book and it has given me several things to think about in regards to my overthinking in relat does.tion to my mental health. Ways to get out of the cycle, How to prevent it reoccuring, and what to do if it does. I believe this book has a lot to offer to men as well and don't understand why it is marketed/name for women. There are some women related items but perhaps only a paragraph or two. Why must we know the hair, skin, and eye color of all the case studies? Aren't we a I enjoyed reading this book and it has given me several things to think about in regards to my overthinking in relat does.tion to my mental health. Ways to get out of the cycle, How to prevent it reoccuring, and what to do if it does. I believe this book has a lot to offer to men as well and don't understand why it is marketed/name for women. There are some women related items but perhaps only a paragraph or two. Why must we know the hair, skin, and eye color of all the case studies? Aren't we all the same?

  17. 4 out of 5

    Shelley Diamond

    The essence of this book is Part II, which includes chapters 4, 5, and 6. The rest of it is filler. Part I is an introduction which you probably don't need if you already know that you are an overthinker. Part III just has examples from various women's lives showing their triggers of overthinking and the results. Part II is the part that tells you what you need to know to change your behavior. Just that part is about 45 pages really worth reading. The essence of this book is Part II, which includes chapters 4, 5, and 6. The rest of it is filler. Part I is an introduction which you probably don't need if you already know that you are an overthinker. Part III just has examples from various women's lives showing their triggers of overthinking and the results. Part II is the part that tells you what you need to know to change your behavior. Just that part is about 45 pages really worth reading.

  18. 5 out of 5

    Julie Sigmund

    I admit I skimmed because the book was too nonfictiony for me. Part I had a few interesting insights about why we overthink. Part II was most helpful with strategies to overcome over thinking. I didn't read part III because I didn't see the point in reading over 100 pages about triggers. The first two parts of the book were enough for me. I admit I skimmed because the book was too nonfictiony for me. Part I had a few interesting insights about why we overthink. Part II was most helpful with strategies to overcome over thinking. I didn't read part III because I didn't see the point in reading over 100 pages about triggers. The first two parts of the book were enough for me.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Claire Swain

    😽😻📚Claire Bear & Mel Mel's Book Reviews 📚😻😽 'Women Who Think Too Much" by Dr Susan Nolen-Hoeksema Genre: Self Help. About the book: "Dr Nolen-Hoeksema shows us what causes so many women to be overthinkers and provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative thoughts, move to higher ground, and live more productively." My Review: Fantastic self help book on overthinking. The author provides in-depth information and evidence about how overthinking has increased over the years e 😽😻📚Claire Bear & Mel Mel's Book Reviews 📚😻😽 'Women Who Think Too Much" by Dr Susan Nolen-Hoeksema Genre: Self Help. About the book: "Dr Nolen-Hoeksema shows us what causes so many women to be overthinkers and provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative thoughts, move to higher ground, and live more productively." My Review: Fantastic self help book on overthinking. The author provides in-depth information and evidence about how overthinking has increased over the years especially in women. You can tell that the author is extremely knowledgeable in this area and has studied overthinking for years. The case studies provide examples of how overthinking can negatively impact certain circumstances and provide helpful strategies to put in place. The author also discusses how non over thinkers and overthinkers can clash especially in the event of bereavement. I have written numerous strategies from this book in a separate notebook to enable me to practice them daily. I am finding several of the strategies very helpful so far. It is repetitive at times especially with the amount of studies discussed. There is a chapter on health which I was particularly looking forward to but sadly the author only focused on a health condition where the symptoms improved and not a chronic or worsening condition. An excellent self help book. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has difficulties with overthinking. Disclaimer: My Book Reviews are based on my own opinions and experiences only. If you would like to see more of my Book Reviews please visit - www.goodreads.com/clairebearmelmel Or clairebearmelmel on Instagram

  20. 5 out of 5

    Lacey Paige

    I’m very glad I happened upon this book at my local Coles bookstore. I often felt like the pages of this book were taken directly from the narrative of my life. Very relatable material and very practical tips on coping with various aspects of life that tend to be the targets of overthinking and overanalyzing. It certainly made me feel a tad less isolated than I have been feeling whilst in the crippling midst of anxiety and depression fuelled by overthinking. Personally speaking, I feel the autho I’m very glad I happened upon this book at my local Coles bookstore. I often felt like the pages of this book were taken directly from the narrative of my life. Very relatable material and very practical tips on coping with various aspects of life that tend to be the targets of overthinking and overanalyzing. It certainly made me feel a tad less isolated than I have been feeling whilst in the crippling midst of anxiety and depression fuelled by overthinking. Personally speaking, I feel the author went a bit overboard with her obvious feminist agenda, and I found it hard to really agree with the points about how sexism and gender-based injustices fuel women’s tendency to overthink; but hey, some good points to considerate, nonetheless - even if you don’t necessary side with those opinions. Still a great read. I highly recommend it to my fellow neurotics and overthinkers.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Tan

    I've been wanting to read something like this for a while, since I overthink absolutely everything :/ this cropped up again and again in my searches so I thought I'd give it a go even though the title is really offputting! There was a lot about this book I didn't like. It felt dated and conservative, and the research mentioned is based on small samples and individual case studies which were exclusively based in North America. I felt certain of the wide cultural gap between my own experiences and I've been wanting to read something like this for a while, since I overthink absolutely everything :/ this cropped up again and again in my searches so I thought I'd give it a go even though the title is really offputting! There was a lot about this book I didn't like. It felt dated and conservative, and the research mentioned is based on small samples and individual case studies which were exclusively based in North America. I felt certain of the wide cultural gap between my own experiences and feelings and those that had informed this book. That said, there was a surprising amount in the book that did resonate with me. Much of it was obvious but some stuff wasn't (even though it probably should have been). I'm glad I read it as it is a good intro to the subject but may search around for something more in depth.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Nada Amar

    Quite relatable for a woman like me who sometimes thinks a bit much, tho personally I don’t overthink, just being strategical. But refers to why women overthink due to social systems / social constructs that give women pressures like popular beauty standards, gender roles such as being a good mother while at the same time being a good worker or a good wife or a good daughter for our parents that we have to fit in to popular expectations that ppl around us put over us, this book kinda explains wh Quite relatable for a woman like me who sometimes thinks a bit much, tho personally I don’t overthink, just being strategical. But refers to why women overthink due to social systems / social constructs that give women pressures like popular beauty standards, gender roles such as being a good mother while at the same time being a good worker or a good wife or a good daughter for our parents that we have to fit in to popular expectations that ppl around us put over us, this book kinda explains why women are like that. Tho some points are unnecessary such as describing clients’ appearances, mostly women (?) doesn’t it get the purpose of this book a bit biased that in fact we against valuing women from their surface only instead of their worth as human? And be so detail-freak on the other sides of the clients themselves instead of highlighting their main problems, unimportant actually. However some life advices work for me to overcome overwhelming situations in society especially those Quick Reference guides in form of tables to break down the necessary points.

  23. 4 out of 5

    Jo

    As I was reading, I felt like I was going to be able to use these strategies for my own personal growth, but by the time I got to the end, I felt that I had forgotten all the strategies that would be useful to me. I'm also mildly frustrated by the focus on women, since I know of at least one male who overthinks. And at least one of those possibly overthinking males wouldn't pay any attention to this book because it's called Women Who Think Too Much. "Not my problem, I'm a dude." Even though the a As I was reading, I felt like I was going to be able to use these strategies for my own personal growth, but by the time I got to the end, I felt that I had forgotten all the strategies that would be useful to me. I'm also mildly frustrated by the focus on women, since I know of at least one male who overthinks. And at least one of those possibly overthinking males wouldn't pay any attention to this book because it's called Women Who Think Too Much. "Not my problem, I'm a dude." Even though the author does point out that men overthink too, just not as commonly. I think I'll make photocopies of the "quick reference guides" and see if they do me any good. Perhaps an update will be forthcoming (but don't hold your breath).

  24. 5 out of 5

    Asmaa Mostafa

    Despite the great amount of techniques to beat overthinking included in this book, what I really loved was the amount of awareness this book brings. The author has the ability to explain the various types of overthinking and the triggers for overthinking and how can you catch yourself while overthinking and understand the patterns of your mind. Before reading this book I thought my mind was dysfunctional and it was only me who was going loco with ideas, but after reading it I discovered that we're Despite the great amount of techniques to beat overthinking included in this book, what I really loved was the amount of awareness this book brings. The author has the ability to explain the various types of overthinking and the triggers for overthinking and how can you catch yourself while overthinking and understand the patterns of your mind. Before reading this book I thought my mind was dysfunctional and it was only me who was going loco with ideas, but after reading it I discovered that we're all in this, it's okay to overthink and it's normal we just have to be aware of our thoughts, our feeling and start taking few actions towards them.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Alexis

    The title is a gimmick but there is solid advice in this book. Men definitely could use this book as well. More than a couple of times, the author generalizes her readers but look past the flaws, the tips and tricks are gold. Also.... The physical descriptions of the women in the book is trivial and unnecessary but the stories are relatable and interesting. Glad I bought it. Worked well and I'll read through it again. Marginalia are your friends. Mark the book up so you can skip the fluff the se The title is a gimmick but there is solid advice in this book. Men definitely could use this book as well. More than a couple of times, the author generalizes her readers but look past the flaws, the tips and tricks are gold. Also.... The physical descriptions of the women in the book is trivial and unnecessary but the stories are relatable and interesting. Glad I bought it. Worked well and I'll read through it again. Marginalia are your friends. Mark the book up so you can skip the fluff the second time around.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Lynne McCarrick

    First of this type I've read ... This was an interesting book, tiptoeing into behaviour and the often-unspoken-of patterns of everyday life. I feel it opened up a space within me where I can feel free and justified in examining my ways of being, my habits, and the reward system that keeps me there. I will continue in being myself. It has not knocked my confidence, but it has helped me take stock of how I allow others to affect me, and whether I was EVER taught about the need for self-care. Glad I First of this type I've read ... This was an interesting book, tiptoeing into behaviour and the often-unspoken-of patterns of everyday life. I feel it opened up a space within me where I can feel free and justified in examining my ways of being, my habits, and the reward system that keeps me there. I will continue in being myself. It has not knocked my confidence, but it has helped me take stock of how I allow others to affect me, and whether I was EVER taught about the need for self-care. Glad I read it. New instrument in my toolbox for life. Enjoy.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Hanaa Mohamed

    The book tries to tell you how to handle overthinking or worrying, by showing some case studies or telling some stories about people put in hard situations and how they reacted and controlled their feelings. It's not a bad approach despite not being always a fan of semi-cookbook approach, but I found it was unnecessarily repetitive and full of stereotypes. Also, I think that the title is a bit misleading, the book is not addressing women only (again another stereotype) but rather men and women w The book tries to tell you how to handle overthinking or worrying, by showing some case studies or telling some stories about people put in hard situations and how they reacted and controlled their feelings. It's not a bad approach despite not being always a fan of semi-cookbook approach, but I found it was unnecessarily repetitive and full of stereotypes. Also, I think that the title is a bit misleading, the book is not addressing women only (again another stereotype) but rather men and women who suffer from overthinking.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Jackie Bergeron

    I wasn't a fan of this to be honest. It was too "clinical" for me. Though it had similar messages to other books I've read of this nature, this author's presentation fell flat. All of the women in her examples had a certain look about them, and it was just unrealistic to me. In many of the method application examples, the women wound up seeking professional help. While there's nothing wrong with that, and I even think that is a positive way to handle situations, it wasn't a true application of t I wasn't a fan of this to be honest. It was too "clinical" for me. Though it had similar messages to other books I've read of this nature, this author's presentation fell flat. All of the women in her examples had a certain look about them, and it was just unrealistic to me. In many of the method application examples, the women wound up seeking professional help. While there's nothing wrong with that, and I even think that is a positive way to handle situations, it wasn't a true application of the methods being presented. It could also be long-winded at times.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Emine Ozturk

    Dr. Hoeksema discusses about the in and out pathways for overthinking. The strategies to overcome overthinking and moving to the higher ground help us to build effective positive habits. She also gives specific life stories in her book for each type of overthinking including marriage and relationships, career and health. This book will definitely help you to change your focus to in a meaningful way! Recommended!

  30. 4 out of 5

    Anastasija Kudrjavceva

    I did find the methods mentioned in the book helpful. But the reason for my low mark is, that it could be way shorter, it has many pages, I just skipped and was fine with understanding. A bit of concern also is, that while you read these stories of different women, you overthink based on their situations, so you need to watch your thoughts. Some stories were very inspiring and the researches the author made, were interesting to read and lookup later.

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